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JobSearchaGram: Sabotaging Your Next Interview


A short video about one of the ways people sabotage themselves on interviews.

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1500 episodes and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice.” He is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council. “No BS JobSearch Advice Radio” was recently named a Top 10 podcast for job search. JobSearchTV.com was also recently named a Top 10 YouTube channel for job search.

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Schedule a free Discovery call.

If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

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Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

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Don’t forget to give the show 5 stars and a good review in iTunes

If you want to know how to win more interviews, order “Winning Interviews.” You’ll learn how to win phone interviews, in-person interviews, the best question to ask on any interview and more.

Would you like to talk through a salary negotiation or potential negotiation you’re involved with? Order and schedule time with me.

Do you have questions or would like advice about networking or any aspect of your search. Order and schedule time with me.

Would you like me to critique your resume. Order a critique from me

Jeff’s Kindle book, “You Can Fix Stupid: No BS Hiring Advice,” is available on Amazon.

Sabotaging Your Job Search: Missing Critical Information | NoBSJobSearchAdvice.com


Listen to the full episode here:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebiggamehunter/2018/08/23/sabotaging-your-job-search-missing-critical-information

EP 1205 Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter tells you one of the most effective ways to sabotage your job search.

Summary

I’m going to teach a great technique for sabotaging your job search. So, here is the technique. You want to do it? It’s your prerogative. I think you're crazy but people seem to be doing it all the time.

You don't put your city, state and ZIP Code on the resume and you have a phone number there that doesn't correlate with where you live.

Do you think recruiters are searching all the time based upon your phone number or do they search by where you're living in, most likely ZIP Code? ZIP Code. That's the way these systems are set up and if you work in technology, you're an idiot if you don't know that.

So I got yet the hundredth resume this week (or what seems like the hundredth resume this week) of someone who didn't put their location and the only reason I know they’re are in the Bay area is because he happened to mention that in an email to me.

I'm seeing his phone number that correlates the someplace in upstate New York. So, no interest, no ZIP Code, no city, State, no nothing! And a recruiter is supposed to know that this phone number is actually in the Bay area.

So if you want to sabotage a job hunting for now and for years to come, please continue to not put your ZIP Code on your resume or your city, state and ZIP Code on your resume.

I understand you don’t want to have identity theft and put your actual street address on it. I understand. But not having ZIP Code on it?

Give me a break!

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for what more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1200 episodes, “Job Search Radio,” “and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice” and is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council.

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Connect with me on LinkedIn. Then message me to schedule an initial complimentary session.

If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedIn. Like me on Facebook.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Join and attend my classes on Skillshare. Become a premium member and get 2 months free.

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle on Amazon and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.” If you are starting your search, order, “Get Ready for the Job Jungle.”

Don’t forget to give the show 5 stars and a good review in iTunes

If you want to know how to win more interviews, order “Winning Interviews.” You’ll learn how to win phone interviews, in-person interviews, the best question to ask on any interview and more.

Would you like to talk through a salary negotiation or potential negotiation you’re involved with? Order and schedule time with me.

Do you have questions or would like advice about networking or any aspect of your search. Order and schedule time with me.

Would you like me to critique your resume. Order a critique from me

For more about LinkedIn, order “Stacked: Double Your Job Interviews, Leverage Recruiters and Unlock LinkedIn.”

Jeff’s Kindle book, “You Can Fix Stupid: No BS Hiring Advice,” is available on Amazon.

NoBSJobSearchAdvice.com

Sabotaging Your Job Search: Not Calling Back | NoBSJobSearchAdvice.com


Listen to the full episode here:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebiggamehunter/2018/08/25/sabotaging-your-job-search-not-calling-back-nobsjobsearchadvicecom

EP 1207 Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter discusses another “genius” way job hunters sabotage their job search.

Summary

I find it incredible that people take so much time to write a resume, find jobs to apply to and, although applying for jobs isn’t the ideal way to find a job, it's a path a lot of people take… And that’s not the way that you our sabotage search. Here's how you doing it.

Again, you our writing a resume, you're looking for places that have positions for you, you send the resume out and you get a phone call. You never called back!

It's incredible to me how often I make a call to someone after receiving a resume or I send an email to someone with a couple questions.

No response.

Help me understand that makes sense, really? At the end of the day, you're trying to find work, you found a position that you think your background fits, you submitted your resume. You don’t respond.

That's another way you or sabotage your job search.

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for what more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1200 episodes, “Job Search Radio,” “and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice” and is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council.

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Connect with me on LinkedIn. Then message me to schedule an initial complimentary session.

If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedIn. Like me on Facebook.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Join and attend my classes on Skillshare. Become a premium member and get 2 months free.

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle on Amazon and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.” If you are starting your search, order, “Get Ready for the Job Jungle.”

Don’t forget to give the show 5 stars and a good review in iTunes

If you want to know how to win more interviews, order “Winning Interviews.” You’ll learn how to win phone interviews, in-person interviews, the best question to ask on any interview and more.

Would you like to talk through a salary negotiation or potential negotiation you’re involved with? Order and schedule time with me.

Do you have questions or would like advice about networking or any aspect of your search. Order and schedule time with me.

Would you like me to critique your resume. Order a critique from me

For more about LinkedIn, order “Stacked: Double Your Job Interviews, Leverage Recruiters and Unlock LinkedIn.”

Jeff’s Kindle book, “You Can Fix Stupid: No BS Hiring Advice,” is available on Amazon.

NoBSJobSearchAdvice.com

Sabotaging Your Job Search: Not Capeople-lling Back | NoBSJobSearchAdvice.com

EP 1207 Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter discusses another “genius” way job hunters sabotage their job search.

Summary

I find it incredible that people take so much time to write a resume, find jobs to apply to and, although applying for jobs isn’t the ideal way to find a job, it's a path a lot of people take… And that’s not the way that you our sabotage search. Here's how you doing it.

Again, you our writing a resume, you're looking for places that have positions for you, you send the resume out and you get a phone call. You never called back!

It's incredible to me how often I make a call to someone after receiving a resume or I send an email to someone with a couple questions.

No response.

Help me understand that makes sense, really? At the end of the day, you're trying to find work, you found a position that you think your background fits, you submitted your resume. You don’t respond.

That's another way you or sabotage your job search.

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for what more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1200 episodes, “Job Search Radio,” “and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice” and is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council.

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Connect with me on LinkedIn. Then message me to schedule an initial complimentary session.

If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedIn. Like me on Facebook.

Join and attend my classes on Skillshare. Become a premium member and get 2 months free.

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle on Amazon and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.” If you are starting your search, order, “Get Ready for the Job Jungle.”

Don’t forget to give the show 5 stars and a good review in iTunes

If you want to know how to win more interviews, order “Winning Interviews.” You’ll learn how to win phone interviews, in-person interviews, the best question to ask on any interview and more.

Would you like to talk through a salary negotiation or potential negotiation you’re involved with? Order and schedule time with me.

Do you have questions or would like advice about networking or any aspect of your search. Order and schedule time with me.

Would you like me to critique your resume. Order a critique from me

For more about LinkedIn, order “Stacked: Double Your Job Interviews, Leverage Recruiters and Unlock LinkedIn.”

Jeff’s Kindle book, “You Can Fix Stupid: No BS Hiring Advice,” is available on Amazon.

NoBSJobSearchAdvice.com

Sabotaging Your Job Search: Missing Critical Information | NoBSJobSearchAdvice.com


Listen to the full episode here:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebiggamehunter/2018/08/23/sabotaging-your-job-search-missing-critical-information

EP 1205 Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter tells you one of the most effective ways to sabotage your job search.

Summary

I’m going to teach a great technique for sabotaging your job search. So, here is the technique. You want to do it? It’s your prerogative. I think you're crazy but people seem to be doing it all the time.

You don't put your city, state and ZIP Code on the resume and you have a phone number there that doesn't correlate with where you live.

Do you think recruiters are searching all the time based upon your phone number or do they search by where you're living in, most likely ZIP Code? ZIP Code. That's the way these systems are set up and if you work in technology, you're an idiot if you don't know that.

So I got yet the hundredth resume this week (or what seems like the hundredth resume this week) of someone who didn't put their location and the only reason I know they’re are in the Bay area is because he happened to mention that in an email to me.

I'm seeing his phone number that correlates the someplace in upstate New York. So, no interest, no ZIP Code, no city, State, no nothing! And a recruiter is supposed to know that this phone number is actually in the Bay area.

So if you want to sabotage a job hunting for now and for years to come, please continue to not put your ZIP Code on your resume or your city, state and ZIP Code on your resume.

I understand you don’t want to have identity theft and put your actual street address on it. I understand. But not having ZIP Code on it?

Give me a break!

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for what more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1200 episodes, “Job Search Radio,” “and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice” and is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council.

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Connect with me on LinkedIn. Then message me to schedule an initial complimentary session.

If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedIn. Like me on Facebook.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Join and attend my classes on Skillshare. Become a premium member and get 2 months free.

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle on Amazon and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.” If you are starting your search, order, “Get Ready for the Job Jungle.”

Don’t forget to give the show 5 stars and a good review in iTunes

If you want to know how to win more interviews, order “Winning Interviews.” You’ll learn how to win phone interviews, in-person interviews, the best question to ask on any interview and more.

Would you like to talk through a salary negotiation or potential negotiation you’re involved with? Order and schedule time with me.

Do you have questions or would like advice about networking or any aspect of your search. Order and schedule time with me.

Would you like me to critique your resume. Order a critique from me

For more about LinkedIn, order “Stacked: Double Your Job Interviews, Leverage Recruiters and Unlock LinkedIn.”

Jeff’s Kindle book, “You Can Fix Stupid: No BS Hiring Advice,” is available on Amazon.

How Do I Avoid Self Sabotage and Get a Job? | No BS Job Search Advice Radio

How Do I Avoid Self Sabotage and Get a Job? | No BS Job Search Advice Radio

EP 968 Here, I address self-sabotage head on and offer a strategy I’ve seen work many many times.

Summary

I got a great question today and thought I would use it for my video. The question is, "How do we avoid self sabotage and get a job?"

I think the answer to this question is in two parts. The first one is that someone gave you this psychological label that I think is absolutely useless. Self sabotage--like you are intentionally going into the interview and trying to screw things up or you have adeep-rooted psychological issue is causing you to make these mistakes that are so costly!

It's not necessarily self-sabotage. It may be simply that you don't have a lot of experience interviewing and are not well-prepared and need to improve.

What has happened in modern times is that there are a lot of labels that are thrown around conveniently that traumatize people. I think self-sabotage is one of those labels. It causes people to think the problems are deep-seated when, in fact, solving them is very simple.

After all, the simple solution to messing up on interviews is practice. How many times that you practice for your last interview? When you think of practice and the impact of lack of practice, that's the big issue!

We have all heard of the 10,000 hour rule yet most job hunters have about a half hour MAYBE of experience writing your resume, or interviewing, or answering specific tough interview questions or using LinkedIn or negotiating compensation.

Most job hunters go on an interview and think they can wing it and, of course, screwup, and on the next one, and the next one, and the one after that. Suddenly, they have label! Self-sabotage!

I want to encourage you to get some experience. Work with friends. Join JobSearchCoachingHQ.com and practice answers to the interview questions we have there. You will go a long way toward eliminating being inexperienced, amateurish (I have to say amateurish because professionals practice).

Don't believe me? Look at every athlete that was at the Olympics. Every professional athlete, no matter what sport they are in. All of them are successful and they practice… And you aren't.

So that's the big issue. It's not some deep-seated psychological problem that is causing you to mess up. It's that you don't have experience doing this and your amateurish behavior tells you you don't have to do this.

So wake up. Start practicing. You'll start getting results.

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves career coaching, all as well as executive job search coaching and business life coaching. He is the host of “Job Search Radio,” “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice.”

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Visit www.TheBigGameHunter.us and click the relevant tab on the top of the page.

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedIn. Like me on Facebook.

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle on Amazon and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.”

Don’t forget to give the show 5 stars and a good review in iTunes

If you want to know how to win more interviews, order “Winning Interviews.” You’ll learn how to win phone interviews, in-person interviews, the best question to ask on any interview and more.

Would you like to talk through a salary negotiation or potential negotiation you’re involved with? Order and schedule time with me.

Do you have questions or would like advice about networking or any aspect of your search. Order and schedule time with me.

Would you like me to critique your resume. Order a critique from me

For more about LinkedIn, order “Stacked: Double Your Job Interviews, Leverage Recruiters and Unlock LinkedIn.”

Jeff’s Kindle book, “You Can Fix Stupid: No BS Hiring Advice,” is available on Amazon.

How to Sabotage Your Job Search Part II


Listen to the full episode here:
http://webtalkradio.net/internet-talk-radio/2017/08/11/how-to-sabotage-your-job-search-part-ii/

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter discusses another way job hunters sabotage their job search.

Summary

redible that people take so much time to write resumes and find jobs to apply to. Although applying for jobs not the ideal way to find the job, is a path a lot of people take. That isn't the way that you're sabotaging your search. Here is how you are doing.

Again, you write a resume, you look for places that are positions for you, you send the resume out, you get a phone call and you never call back! It is incredible somebody how often I make a call to someone after receiving a resume or send an email to someone with a few questions and I get no response. Help me understand how that makes sense.

At the end of the day, you are trying to find work. You found the position that you think your background fits, you submit a resume and you don't respond.

That is another way to sabotage your job search.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves life coaching, as well as executive job search coaching and business life coaching. He is the host of “Job Search Radio,” “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice.”

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching from me? Email me at JeffAltman@TheBigGameHunter.us
and put the word, “Coaching” in the subject line.

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I on function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.

Do you have a quick question you would like me to answer? Pay $50 via PayPal to TheBigGameHunter@gmail.com

Do you have a question you would like me to answer? Pay $25 via PayPal to TheBigGameHunter@gmail.com
and then forward your question to the same address.

Connect with me on LinkedIn http://bit.ly/thebiggamehunter

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle for $.99 and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.”

Self-Sabotage: A Misdiagnosis (VIDEO)


I wrote an article last week about how self sabotage by job hunters is mislabeled that was viewed by many, many people. I decided to look at this more broadly than job hunters and look at how it affects self-employed people and entrepreneurs alike.

Summary

“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” - Alexander Graham Bell

I wrote an article for my website that I also published on LinkedIn that spoke to job hunters about how they often incorrectly blame self-sabotage as a cause of their failures. I want to extend my thinking here to include entrepreneurs, freelancers, self-employed individuals and others who are leaders and complain to themselves about how they sabotage themselves at critical junctures.

When I spoke to job hunters, I pointed out that so much of what is referred to as self-sabotage comes from lack of preparedness. They forget that the skills needed to find a job are different but complement those needed to do a job. This their ignorance of how to job hunt, write a quality resume, brand and market themselves, interview and negotiate are often indicative of that and not of self-sabotage. It is the fact that they don’t know what needs to be done in an environment where all information is almost every piece of information is available that comes back to haunt them that dooms them to failure.

However, for entrepreneurs, freelancers, self-employed people and other business leaders what often happens is a little different. It all starts with the courage to step out of their comfort zone and do something they have never done before.

You are someone who is willing to try, rather than accept the role you are in now and, if you are like most entrepreneurs I know, you are willing to take a chance having thought it out, lost sleep, asked for advice and the opinions of those close to you before having this misstep. You courageously took a chance and it didn’t work. Now your thoughts punish you for being “incompetent,” “stupid,” “foolish and worse.

This is not evidence of “self-sabotage” or some “psychological defect.” It doesn’t make you “a choker,” “a loser” or “a failure.” Instead, it makes you someone who tried and who would not accept the status quo in your life and/or business.

We watch athletes who fail in the big game or the big match and return the following year to win. How did they do that.

Self-employed people decide to get out of their comfort zone. You may be world class at what you do now but you are a rookie at the new thing you want to try. Getting out of your comfort zone takes courage. Good for you. View this new idea as an experiment. Edison failed at the light bulb 1000+ times. Alexander Graham Bell failed many times, too.

Self-employed people learn they are close but not ready. Organization and talent are only a part of the equation to be a winner. Often, it takes experience being in the arena that is required. Yes, there are teams and players who win the first time but many don’t. You are very good but that isn’t enough in sports or in business. Michael Jordan and his teams were incredibly talented. So were the Detroit Pistons, Golden State Warriors and others. They learned from the experiences they had losing in the playoffs.

Self-employed people adapt to what they learned from the experience. Losing a title, losing a big match is incredibly painful. You spend an entire season in order to play on the big stage and you came up a little short. For you, it is time to dissect the lessons from the experience and start to put them into practice. The first time it may feel awkward and unfamiliar but, with practice, you get better and internalize the lessons and the changes.

Self-employed people risk failure again until they win . . or give up. No one likes to lose but you cannot win without risking another losing. Sometimes, people and teams fail repeatedly. They get up and try again until they win or their spirit is broken and they quit.

Self-employed people get help. Great athletes and entertainers all have coaches. Successful business people usually do, too. And you are trying to do this on your own with no advice from anyone other than yourself. Not smart. Coaching offers extra eyes on your problems and the ability for someone who is outside the immediate circle to look at the issues and recommend change. Hire a coach to work with.

This brings me back to self-sabotage. For you who are self-employed, freelancing, entrepreneurs and leading small businesses. You usually are not engaged in this “deep psychological drive to subvert your success. You are learning more about what you need to know in order to be successful.

Winners find the way to win. They battle back from individual defeats to see them as opportunities to learn, practice getting better and winning. It is not lack of talent or self-sabotage that causes their defeats. It is inexperience that does.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves life coaching, as well as executive job search coaching and business life coaching. He is the host of “Job Search Radio” and “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” both available through iTunes and Stitcher.

Are you interested in executive job search coaching, leadership coaching or life coaching from me?  Email me at JeffAltman@TheBigGameHunter.us and put the word, “Coaching” in the subject line.

Do you have a question you would like me to answer? Pay $25 via PayPal to TheBigGameHunter@gmail.com  

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedIn. Like me on Facebook.

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle for $.99 and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.”

Don’t forget to give the show 5 stars and a good review in iTunes

Self Sabotage: A Misdiagnosis

“When one door closes, another opens; but we often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door that we do not see the one which has opened for us.” – Alexander Graham Bell

I wrote an article for my website that I also published on LinkedIn that spoke to job hunters about how they often incorrectly blame self-sabotage as a cause of their failures. I want to extend my thinking here to include entrepreneurs, freelancers, self-employed individuals and others who are leaders and complain to themselves about how they sabotage themselves at critical junctures.

When I spoke to job hunters, I pointed out that so much of what is referred to as self-sabotage comes from lack of preparedness. They forget that the skills needed to find a job are different but complement those needed to do a job. This their ignorance of how to job hunt, write a quality resume, brand and market themselves, interview and negotiate are often indicative of that and not of self-sabotage. It is the fact that they don’t know what needs to be done in an environment where all information is almost every piece of information is available that comes back to haunt them that dooms them to failure.

However, for entrepreneurs, freelancers, self-employed people and other business leaders what often happens is a little different. It all starts with the courage to step out of their comfort zone and do something they have never done before.

You are someone who is willing to try, rather than accept the role you are in now and, if you are like most entrepreneurs I know, you are willing to take a chance having thought it out, lost sleep, asked for advice and the opinions of those close to you before having this misstep. You courageously took a chance and it didn’t work. Now your thoughts punish you for being “incompetent,” “stupid,” “foolish and worse.

This is not evidence of “self-sabotage” or some “psychological defect.” It doesn’t make you “a choker,” “a loser” or “a failure.” Instead, it makes you someone who tried and who would not accept the status quo in your life and/or business.

We watch athletes who fail in the big game or the big match and return the following year to win. How did they do that.

  1. Self-employed people decide to get out of their comfort zone. You may be world class at what you do now but you are a rookie at the new thing you want to try. Getting out of your comfort zone takes courage. Good for you. View this new idea as an experiment. Edison failed at the light bulb 1000+ times. Alexander Graham Bell failed many times, too.
  2. Self-employed people learn they are close but not ready. Organization and talent are only a part of the equation to be a winner. Often, it takes experience being in the arena that is required. Yes, there are teams and players who win the first time but many don’t. You are very good but that isn’t enough in sports or in business. Michael Jordan and his teams were incredibly talented. So were the Detroit Pistons, Golden State Warriors and others. They learned from the experiences they had losing in the playoffs.
  3. Self-employed people adapt to what they learned from the experience. Losing a title, losing a big match is incredibly painful. You spend an entire season in order to play on the big stage and you came up a little short. For you, it is time to dissect the lessons from the experience and start to put them into practice. The first time it may feel awkward and unfamiliar but, with practice, you get better and internalize the lessons and the changes.
  4. Self-employed people risk failure again until they win . . or give up. No one likes to lose but you cannot win without risking another losing. Sometimes, people and teams fail repeatedly. They get up and try again until they win or their spirit is broken and they quit.
  5. Self-employed people get help. Great athletes and entertainers all have coaches. Successful business people usually do, too. And you are trying to do this on your own with no advice from anyone other than yourself. Not smart. Coaching offers extra eyes on your problems and the ability for someone who is outside the immediate circle to look at the issues and recommend change. Hire a coach to work with.

This brings me back to self-sabotage. For you who are self-employed, freelancing, entrepreneurs and leading small businesses. You usually are not engaged in this “deep psychological drive to subvert your success. You are learning more about what you need to know in order to be successful.

Winners find the way to win. They battle back from individual defeats to see them as opportunities to learn, practice getting better and winning. It is not lack of talent or self-sabotage that causes their defeats. It is inexperience that does.

 

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How Do I Avoid Self Sabotage and Get a Job? | No BS Job Search Advice Radio

How Do I Avoid Self Sabotage and Get a Job

Self-sabotage is an interesting thing for a job hunter to identify as their issue. Here, I address it head on and offer a strategy I’ve seen work many many times.

Summary

I got a great question today and thought I would use it for my video. The question is, "How do we avoid self sabotage and get a job?"

I think the answer to this question is in two parts. The first one is that someone gave you this psychological label that I think is absolutely useless. Self sabotage--like you are intentionally going into the interview and trying to screw things up or you have adeep-rooted psychological issue is causing you to make these mistakes that are so costly!

It's not necessarily self-sabotage. It may be simply that you don't have a lot of experience interviewing and are not well-prepared and need to improve.

What has happened in modern times is that there are a lot of labels that are thrown around conveniently that traumatize people. I think self-sabotage is one of those labels. It causes people to think the problems are deep-seated when, in fact, solving them is very simple.

After all, the simple solution to messing up on interviews is practice. How many times that you practice for your last interview? When you think of practice and the impact of lack of practice, that's the big issue!

We have all heard of the 10,000 hour rule yet most job hunters have about a half hour MAYBE of experience writing your resume, or interviewing, or answering specific tough interview questions or using LinkedIn or negotiating compensation.

Most job hunters go on an interview and think they can wing it and, of course, screwup, and on the next one, and the next one, and the one after that. Suddenly, they have label! Self-sabotage!

I want to encourage you to get some experience. Work with friends. Join JobSearchCoachingHQ.com and practice answers to the interview questions we have there. You will go a long way toward eliminating being inexperienced, amateurish (I have to say amateurish because professionals practice).

Don't believe me? Look at every athlete that was at the Olympics. Every professional athlete, no matter what sport they are in. All of them are successful and they practice… And you aren't.

So that's the big issue. It's not some deep-seated psychological problem that is causing you to mess up. It's that you don't have experience doing this and your amateurish behavior tells you you don't have to do this.

So wake up. Start practicing. You'll start getting results.

 

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