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Optimism, Worry & The House of Secrets | The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast


Worry is the muscle we exercise most.

Summary

This is The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast, Episode 123. I'm your host Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter and Welcome to Monday! What a Game of Thrones building up to the big battle? And Billions. It seems like there's a battle on every week. But I digress. That isn't the purpose of the show, which is to talk with you about some element of life, the universe and everything.
And let me just start by saying you can listen to the show on anchor.fm. You can listen to it in Apple podcast. You can listen on YouTube, Spotify, wherever you listen to podcasts, this show is out and about.

SEGMENT 1. And let me just start by talking with you about optimism because I think a lot of us, myself included, tend to fixate on problems. In fixating on problems, I know I develop pessimism, What about you?
Do you start feeling as though things are going to, I don't wanna say crashing on you but there's always some problem that you're dealing with. That has been true for me for so many years. When I worked in recruiting, there was always something going on, that I needed to worry about. And, the truth is, there's really very little that I do now. That's not because I coach but because that's the nature of life, and I could worry about things. But most of the time, the things I worry about are really pretty unimportant.
My life isn't going to be any worse or actually any better for having worried about them. I can better serve by focusing on solutions than worrying about potential problems. How about you? Is that what happens with you? You focus on your worry and not on the solutions.
Optimism is like a muscle that needs exercise. And if we can practice being optimistic, then we can handle these situations that we face and, more often than not, we feel better all the way through by handling these problems, because we're not worried about failure, because that's really what happens when we worry. We're focused on solutions. And the fact that throughout most of our lives, I'm pretty good at coming up with solutions to our problems, right? So what are you worried about? What are you feeling pessimistic about? The data contradicts your mind here. Stop paying attention to your mind. All it's doing is getting you to worry about things that you'll be able to figure out.

SEGMENT 2. When I was a boy, I grew up in what I have now nicknamed, "The House of Secrets." My parents shared nothing with my brother and I (Or at least with me. I don't know about my brother) But clearly, I knew nothing of the difficulties that they were experiencing, the headaches that they had with their family, all the other stuff.
Understand these were people who met during World War II. They fled Nazis, they met in Siberia. This was "The House Of Secrets." Nothing was ever shared with me until my father's death bed and then I heard the story of how they met, how they fled, and all the other sorts of stuff. But it didn't teach me the stuff. I shouldn't say, "the stuff" but they didn't really spend time teaching me lessons about how to handle things. I've kind of learned that on my own and in growing up in this House of Secrets, I learned to contain a lot of things, myself, rather than opening up about them.
Now, some of you think that's an okay thing and it may be for you by just found the pressure and the burdens at times to be so overwhelming as to be painful. I've learned over the course of time when I open up and talk things through with people I know love, trust, respect and care about, that's what they feel for me. They get closer to me. They trust me more. And the result winds up being I feel better. And, at times, I get input. At times I just need to be heard and in opening up to us a quote that I heard from Robin Roberts from ABC, "by making my mess, my message, I'm able to effect the change within me and within others, that proves very helpful."
You have people close to you could be a wife, husband, partner, parent who you can talk with and share your lessons with. Your kids if if you have them, because they know we make mistakes. Lord knows, they judge us. Our children judge us from what they think our mistakes are, even if we haven't made them so let's at least acknowledge that we make them. Use them as teaching moments, and, best of all, feel better about ourselves and our lives. And that's that lesson, making your mess your message.

SEGMENT 3. "If you hear people from my past speak of me, keep in mind they're speaking of a person they don't know anymore." Great little meme I saw recently that reminds me of a relationship with a number of my friends who I've known for a long time, who, when I speak with them, who I, when I meet with them, I start off the conversation by asking, "how old are you now?" And I do that because I sometimes forget that a lot of time has passed from the time that I really knew them.
There is one friend. Married. Daughter, great man. I knew him when he was 30 and now is 50. He is a different man that I knew. I know that's true of many and how they see me even though I'm relatively public. I'll just simply say that for many folks, we live with individuals who've been frozen in time, that bear no resemblance to who they are today. Come on, folks. Give them a break. They deserve it just like you do.

SEGMENT 4. "All the world's a stage and all the men (and women) merely players, they have their exits and their entrances. And one man or woman in his time plays many parts."
How about the part of being the leading man or leading lady? Have you tried playing that part or have you barely been satisfied? Or have you really focused your efforts on being a player, a performer on the stage with no special qualities to you?
Come on, folks. Eventually life runs out. Don't you want to know what it's like to be a star? Come on. Seriously, Get out front. Show people what you've got! Stop playing small. Dream big. Dream big and do the things that will help you get there and often it's in the details. But, Heck, most of the time, most of us spend our time being bit players.
Let's get out in front and become stars. Leading men. Leading ladies. Being exceptional.

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for NoBSCoachingAdvice.com. He is the host of “The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast,” and “No BS Job Search Advice.”

Are you interested in my coaching you? Connect with me on LinkedIn and, once we are connected, message me. If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) https://thebiggamehunter.us/magnifi or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

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Is It OK to Take a Counteroffer in This Case? | NoBSJobSearchAdvice.com


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EP 1443. Counteroffers some pretty common occurrences. Is it okay to accept one in this case?

Summary

Here is 1 of those questions I was asked on quora and I want to help sort this out for someone.

Here is the scenario. A person has been working in a job that he or she really likes. He gets a call from someone that he interviewed with. Several years ago. In the call, the person is offered a 45% increase in salary. They don't feel underpaid about the amount of the increase was so significant that they had to consider it. When they gave notice, the boss countered with a proposal that exceeded the increase the other firm had made and saying that it would change nothing in their relationship. There will be no ill will or anything like that.

The boss said that the salary gap was big enough that he couldn't blame me. He would have done the same thing in my shoes.  They had a candid conversation and the person writes, "I would love to stay in my current job with this new salary. I know for sure I will be much happier at my current company. Then with the new one   But the advice is usually to never ever take a counteroffer.  I am wondering if this should be 1 of those exceptions."

I want to start by saying that there are no rules except the ones that you want to engage with.

So, don't look to the outside for the rule; just look for what feels right.

I don't know if there will be an impact on you by staying; that's usually what most of the caution is about.

The cautions usually say "You are getting your next raise in advance. They're going to hold it over you. After all, when it comes time for promotion, are they going to reward you or the loyal person who hasn't made waves?" That is the standard advice.

When I hear about a 45% raise, I tend to think of an individual with a lower salary. So it's not like you're making $240,000 per year and being offered a 45% increase. The probability is that you are a lower wage relatively new person in the workforce for whom (I don't know what your real numbers are because you don't really speak about them)-- let's say you're a $40,000 per year person getting a 45% raise-- you are still under $60,000. That's chump change to a firm.

Don't be concerned about percentages. Even though everyone is throwing that percentage in your face , and I know will make a difference, but at the end of the day, it still translates into, "you are not making a lot of money and you have been underpaid for a long time."

The real thing is can you trust your boss. I know from experience that if I feel blackmailed to do something and there is a bad day, the 1st thing I would do is say, "I can't believe I gave this person 45% more and they are still working like crap for me!"

Again, it's an emotional response. I'm not criticizing your boss. I just know that at that moment he was trying to sell you on staying with their firm. Just consider that they have good intentions and, like an abusive spouse, may not be able to fulfill them in their entirety.

At the end of the day I have to say trust your gut.

It is really the best advice someone can give you. After all, you know the people that are involved.

The only question I would have for you is if your value was so much higher than what you are being paid previously, why were you underpaid for so long? Why did your current firm take advantage of you?

Once you have that answer for yourself, I think you know what decision to make.

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1400 episodes and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice.” He is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council. “No BS JobSearch Advice Radio” was recently named a Top 10 podcast for job search. JobSearchTV.com was also recently named a Top 10 YouTube channel for job search.

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Schedule a free Discovery call.

If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedInLike me on Facebook.

Join and attend my classes on Skillshare. Become a premium member and get 2 months free.

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You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle on Amazon and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.” If you are starting your search, order, “Get Ready for the Job Jungle.” 

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Things They Don’t Teach You in School About Job Hunting | NoBSJobSearchAdvice.com


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EP 1410 Here I offer a few pointers to help you avoid missing some points that you may not know.

Summary

I want to talk with you today as a graduating senior . . . It hit the graduation trial; your parents have shown up. Congratulations. You are out of school. You think it is time to look for job.

I'm not going to criticize you for things you did not do in the past. I'm just going to make sure you are doing the best that you can in the current climate, given how much or how little you have done to market yourself and to get yourself out and into the job you want to be starting with. This is going to be about tactics that you can use to help you find work.

The 1st thing is that by now you have your generic resume, however good or bad, that is. If you want me to critique it, send an email to me at JeffAltman@TheBigGameHunter.us. Among the things I do is critique resumes and will offer you a discount of over what I charge people who have a ready entered the workforce. In the body of the email, but the phrase, "I saw your video." I will charge you $99 (these days, that is 1/3 of what I charge people for resume critiques).

Send me your generic resume so I can review that and, from there, before you submit any organization, tailor your resume to demonstrate the fit. I think the generic resume should be as big and expansive as possible for your online persona. Thus, if you're putting it up on a job board, there is fine for it to be. However, when you're actually applying for jobs, there, you want to demonstrate a fit. My 1st point is about tailing your resume and how important it is.

My 2nd point is about networking. You may not have the biggest network in the world but you do know people who graduated the year before you. If you are not sure where they are right now, LinkedIn has a function that allows you to find alumni from your school.

NOTE: Click on the name of your school from your home page. It was recently changed.

Network with alumni. Network with faculty with whom you have a relationship. Network with everyone you possibly can like family who might be willing to help you. The people you went to high school with who may be out in the work world. Your family. You may not like ask your parents for help, but your parents may know people around the world who might be able to help.

Part of what you want to be doing is what are called "informational interviews." These are meetings where you ask people for advice, but not jobs.

"Hi! I'm a recent grad with a background in such and such. "Reach out to someone who is in that kind of a role already in a particular organization and use LinkedIn for this purpose. You go to LinkedIn and do a search for profiles that fit a particular background or work at a particular organization and message them and say, "hi! I'm out looking for a job. I wanted to see if I could get a few minutes to pick your brain by Skype, in person or some other way. When you think I might be able to speak with you?"

It's a nice strategy where you get advice and put yourself in front of more people, practicing some of the communications that might seem clumsy to so that in this way, you get better. I have videos about informational interviews on YouTube which is at http://thebiggamehunter.us. You can search for them. They are or on YouTube.

3. If you or someone with great grades, don't forget venture capital firms. Don't forget investment banks. There are lots of different organizations that hire people into their ranks for what are called "portfolio companies." These are firms that they own that they might be able to point you to.

Get a website for yourself if you don't already have one. There are lots of different services that will give you a space on the web for free. Don't do stupid stuff and keep you resume there is a way of letting firms find it and recruit you. After all, there are a lot of organizations that don't have LinkedIn premium accounts and don't have access to job boards and are searching on the web for them. Use Squarespace, wix or weebly to get a free site going and make sure that is well searchable by using keywords in the resume to reflect the work that you're doing look at relevant answer on Indeed to make sure that you have them..

On LinkedIn, make sure that the line underneath your name reflects the work that you want to be doing. Think about a headline there that would be attractive to someone.

Keep taking classes, what are you doing it online or as part of the program at your university. Keep training yourself to ensure that you remain on top of your game.

For interviewing purposes, figure out what makes you different. There are hundreds of thousands of people who are graduating from schools all over the United States and whatever country you might be located in. You have to think in terms of what makes you different that you can sell against the tide.

I want to be clear that if you have a 4.0 average and think that is a special quality, It isn't. There are a lot of people who graduate with a 4.0 index.

What makes you different?

A lot of resumes will look at online look pretty flat. Put a little color in your resume.

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

NoBSJobSearchAdvice.com
NoBSJobSearchAdvice.com

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1400 episodes and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice.” He is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council. “No BS JobSearch Advice Radio” was recently named a Top 10 podcast for job search. JobSearchTV.com was also recently named a Top 10 YouTube channel for job search.

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Schedule a free Discovery call.

If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedInLike me on Facebook.

Join and attend my classes on Skillshare. Become a premium member and get 2 months free.

Join Career Angles on Facebook and receive support, ideas and advice in your current career and job.

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle on Amazon and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.” If you are starting your search, order, “Get Ready for the Job Jungle.”

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Don’t forget to give the show 5 stars and a good review in iTunes

If you want to know how to win more interviews, order “Winning Interviews.” You’ll learn how to win phone interviews, in-person interviews, the best question to ask on any interview and more.

Would you like to talk through a salary negotiation or potential negotiation you’re involved with? Order and schedule time with me.

Do you have questions or would like advice about networking or any aspect of your search. Order and schedule time with me.

Would you like me to critique your resume. Order a critique from me

Jeff’s Kindle book, “You Can Fix Stupid: No BS Hiring Advice,” is available on Amazon.

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Networking Bigger | JobSearchTV.com


In this Periscope, I discuss how to be more effective with your in person networking.

Summary

Now, this is a scope that we're doing about networking and, in this one, I want to get you focused on going into situations that you're not real comfortable with. That's because, at the end of the day, let me give you some statistics . . . well, let me skip the statistics. You can only do so much with the people that you already know. You've got to widen your circle. You've got to be able to ask for help, ask for support and know that people are going to give it to you freely.
So, here's a quick suggestion for you. If you put yourself in the position where . . . actually put yourself in uncomfortable situations from time to time. Go to networking events. Go to meetups. Go to different situations where you'll be dealing with people or meeting people that you don't already know.
And the biggest tip I have for people is to be approachable. Get away from the wall, you know, the wall. Get away from the wall, stop hugging it. And here's your biggest asset . . . As you're standing there sipping something, or waiting to be approached, what you do is you put a smile on your face, relax, and allow yourself to be approachable.
Don't be closed off. Don't be, you know, problematic. Don't look like you're angry or depressed or walking in distracted. Allow yourself to soften your gaze, put a smile on your face ( Come on, you could do it. You can put a smile on your face. You can do it and allow people to come to you and then engage in the conversation so they start walking over to you and you've got the smile on your face. And here's your magic first words. Ready? "Hi, how are you? I'm Jeff Altman. Who are you?" And then you start going from there.
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ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1400 episodes and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice.” He is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council. “No BS JobSearch Advice Radio” was recently named a Top 10 podcast for job search. JobSearchTV.com was also recently named a Top 10 YouTube channel for job search.

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Schedule a free Discovery call.

If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedInLike me on Facebook.

Join and attend my classes on Skillshare. Become a premium member and get 2 months free.

Join Career Angles on Facebook and receive support, ideas and advice in your current career and job.

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle on Amazon and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.” If you are starting your search, order, “Get Ready for the Job Jungle.”

JobSearchTV.com
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If you want to know how to win more interviews, order “Winning Interviews.” You’ll learn how to win phone interviews, in-person interviews, the best question to ask on any interview and more.

Would you like to talk through a salary negotiation or potential negotiation you’re involved with? Order and schedule time with me.

Do you have questions or would like advice about networking or any aspect of your search. Order and schedule time with me.

Would you like me to critique your resume. Order a critique from me

Jeff’s Kindle book, “You Can Fix Stupid: No BS Hiring Advice,” is available on Amazon.

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Here are a few things people do that get them into trouble on LinkedIn

Summary

Today, I thought I would do a show about stupid LinkedIn mistakes, and putting yourself in the position of getting into trouble unnecessarily.
How do you do that? Number one is you don't set privacy settings in such a way as that you can not contact everyone that you're connected with. Because on LinkedIn, you're probably connected to some people that you work with. And you're probably connected some people who you used to work with, who are still in touch with people that you do work with.
So not changing privacy settings in such a way that you don't share with everyone that you're connected with that you're making changes to your profile, gets you into trouble.
The simplest way to do that is if you go to settings and privacy. Actually, first click on the picture of yourself along the black ribbon going to settings and privacy, then there's an option there that allows you to change the settings in such a ways that you don't notify all your connections. Do that is the first thing.
Then, from there, understand that you don't want to necessarily put your work email or phone number into your profile; you always want to have a personal one there. Again, this video is for people who are currently working. If you are not working, no issues whatsoever because your phone number and email address there. But if you are working, you don't want to have professional ones there that allow you to be getting calls and emails at the office. Put your mobile number there. Put your Personal email. That's not an issue.
You also don't want to be in a situation where you're using your firm's technology, their computers, their smartphones, their printers and stuff along those lines, because those can be easily monitored. You don't want to share on social media, and, particularly on LinkedIn, that you're out there looking.
Now you're part of groups "hey, I'm looking for a job. And if you guys know about a job . . . " They're just dumb stuff that people do.
Also, trusting someone at the office with the fact that you're looking. I used to work as a headhunter. And so many people got into trouble because that person saw it as an opportunity to ingratiate themselves with their boss or manager and allow them to know so that, they could be seen as loyal.
You don't announce the fact that you're looking for a job in a LinkedIn update. You don't announce your search in the headline area of your LinkedIn profile.
I'll simply say the idea of putting out there that you're looking for a job in a public way, if you're currently working can get you into hotwater because you don't know who sees what. You don't have control of the algorithms that reveal stuff to viewers. And, as such, it's one thing to do it in a personal conversation, email, a text, a private message. It's another thing to put it out publicly.

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1400 episodes and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice.” He is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council. “No BS JobSearch Advice Radio” was recently named a Top 10 podcast for job search. JobSearchTV.com was also recently named a Top 10 YouTube channel for job search.

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Schedule a free Discovery call.

If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedInLike me on Facebook.

Join and attend my classes on Skillshare. Become a premium member and get 2 months free.

Join Career Angles on Facebook and receive support, ideas and advice in your current career and job.

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle on Amazon and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.” If you are starting your search, order, “Get Ready for the Job Jungle.”

JobSearchTV.com
JobSearchTV.com

If you want to know how to win more interviews, order “Winning Interviews.” You’ll learn how to win phone interviews, in-person interviews, the best question to ask on any interview and more.

Would you like to talk through a salary negotiation or potential negotiation you’re involved with? Order and schedule time with me.

Do you have questions or would like advice about networking or any aspect of your search. Order and schedule time with me.

Would you like me to critique your resume. Order a critique from me

Jeff’s Kindle book, “You Can Fix Stupid: No BS Hiring Advice,” is available on Amazon.

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Sweet Nothings | Career Angles

We spend a lot of time yelling . . . at ourselves and little time whispering “sweet nothings” in our ears.

If you aren’t familiar with the term, sweet nothings are the words of affection shared by lovers.

You see, we have fallen out of love with ourselves and act as though we want a divorce from the person who makes all the mistakes, the person we criticize relentlessly, the person we act with so much hatred or, at best, indifference toward.

Can you fall back in love with yourself?

Start by whispering sweet nothings and notice how you feel.

Let your love flow for yourself.

Ⓒ The Big Game Hunter, Inc., Asheville, NC 2019

 

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1200 episodes and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice” and is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council.

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Please click here to see my schedule to book a free discovery call.

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Meet Up with People to Network With | JobSearchRadio.com

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter encourages you to look beyond LinkedIn with your networking efforts.

Summary

For most of you, you have gotten lazy and use LinkedIn as your exclusive networking tool. . It doesn't do enough for you to have the interpersonal communications that are necessary for people to trust that they can refer you.

Yes, you can collect lots of information from LinkedIn; however, it is hard to do. The relationship building, you need to do.

Here's another way of doing it.

When I think of networking, I think of meeting people person to person. 1 of the best ways of doing that is with Meetup groups. Finding Meetup that relates to your area of interest in your geographic area of choice. Attend some meetings. Participate. Talk to the person who runs the MeetUp. You develop a relationship with them. Be friendly.

Suddenly, in a few months, people want to help you. That's really what the networking is all about-- connecting with people so that they want to help you because they like you. They trust you. They believe that you know what you claim to know so they refer you.

When all is said and done, LinkedIn is great. Don't neglect MeetUps. They are a terrific way to make the connections that are necessary in order to get yourself in front of firms.

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1300 episodes and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice.” He is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council. “No BS JobSearch Advice Radio” was recently named a Top 10 podcast for job search. JobSearchTV.com was also recently named a Top 10 YouTube channel for job search.

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Connect with me on LinkedIn. Then message me to schedule an initial complimentary session.

If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

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Hiring When There Is Volatility | No BS Hiring Advice


In this video, I discuss the challenges firms address when hiring during times when there is economic volatility or a down economic environment.

Summary

Stock market volatility has reminded me of a subject I haven't covered in a while so I thought I would bring it to the fore. And that is from a hiring perspective, volatility evokes fear and that has an impact on your hiring process. How? Real simple. People get nervous. They get nervous about whether they should change jobs. After all, the story goes, the last one in is the first one out. Now, you know, both of us know, that this isn't true. But that is such a part of American lexicon that it's hard to dissuade people about it. So, you may start to see the number of resumes decline during times of volatility as people get nervous or if there's an altogether, slow down in economy.
You know, until firms start the layoffs, you may see resumes drying up as people become fearful of changing their circumstances. After all, here's another one of those cliches, the devil they know is better than the one that they don't know.
So, what I would encourage you to do is be proactive. As you get people in the door for your jobs, I'm not telling you to be flexible. I'm telling you to sell. I want you to sell hard.
So, if your stock market prices down sharply as many prices will, there are firms that at the time that a person is giving notice is going to point to that and go, "Gee, you're going to a firm that's been hit hard by the the slowdown. Why would you want to do that?" And most people don't have already answers to that. So they wind up being susceptible to counter offers, I want you to take the bull by the horn, and really sell the people that you're interested in, even ones that you aren't.
The reason for selling to the ones that you aren't, is because there's less noise. You don't want to have the negative remarks that people make online or to friends, or to colleagues or to former colleagues interfere with the flow of potentially good employees, because no one feels cared about. Even when you turn someone down, you need to do it in a good way and simply say, "we thought long and hard about this one and you came in second," or there was some good people that we saw that were a little closer fit to what we were looking for. Nothing wrong with your background. You were terrific. And these were just a little bit tighter." You know, it just goes a long way toward the PR part of how you wind up recruiting.
From a recruiting standpoint recognize that the old tactics of just inMailing people on LinkedIn and hoping for the best won't work as well. You really do have to call them so they hear your voice and that you care for them. You need to reach out to more people probably to fill jobs and when you get them in the door, you need to always be selling. If there are areas where you firm might be susceptible, like your stock prices down 20 - 25%, you have to speak to that and simply say, "hey, look, this is one of these market corrections; our businesses strong. You know, our sales are, on course for hitting our numbers."
Whatever it is, you need to speak to that in the interview so that people don't become susceptible to counter offers as they often are.

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1400 episodes and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice.” He is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council. “No BS JobSearch Advice Radio” was recently named a Top 10 podcast for job search. JobSearchTV.com was also recently named a Top 10 YouTube channel for job search.

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Schedule a free Discovery call.

If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

Jeff’s Kindle book, “You Can Fix Stupid: No BS Hiring Advice,” is available on Amazon.

 

No BS Hiring Advice
No BS Hiring Advice

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedInLike me on Facebook.

Join and attend my classes on Skillshare. Become a premium member and get 2 months free.

Join Career Angles on Facebook and receive support, ideas and advice in your current career and job.

 

Salary Negotiation Advice For Executives | NoBSJobSearchAdvice.com


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EP 1442. Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter offers some basic negotiation advice for when you work with a recruiter.

Summary

I just want this speak with you and say that if you're working with a recruiter, I know this may be hard, but you just have to trust them to do the job. That job and I'm speaking of is to do the negotiation for you.

You get to the point where you have the offer or on the run up to the offer. There are 2 different approaches – – one from the contingency side, the other from the retained search side.

I think the retained search side finds it less difficult to do the negotiation. On the contingency side, there is a certain panic involved because there is that much more money that is involved in the way of a commission. Often, with a contingency recruiter, the relationship may not be as strong as it is with the retained recruiter. Again, knowing the relationship that your representation has with the client is going to be a big help to you.

Let's assume it is a contingency recruiter and you are on the run up phase and they ask, "So, how much are you looking for, again? I want to make sure I have the numbers right." By now, you should have an idea of how much you be looking for based upon what you know about the job, what you know in the way of comparables for people like you... I'm not talking about those broad salary ranges (just to pick arbitrary numbers) like $200,000-$275,000. Everywhere there's a $275,000, knowing here's the $200,000 and so they know your here's all the numbers in the middle. Recognize that that is a pretty broad range. You want to get more targeted.

When the recruiter starts to talk you down as often, they will try to do, that may be a signal that they already know what the hiring firm is going to propose. You can cut right through. "Have you spoken with the firm? What's the number they are talking about? Let's just go right to it." This way, you can start working for the case as to why they have to up the number and why they have to represent you to up the number.

When push comes to shove, you may already know that they offer $245,000, you will take it. They don't need to know that. You have to push for the biggest number because at this point, what they are trying to do is squeeze you into that pocket that your client has been trying to wedge you into and that may not necessarily serve your needs.

Again, given the idea that you're going to do this and is going to generate this amount of money. Save this amount of money. At the end of the day, the client may not necessarily shift AND you may go directly to the client. Initially, following the old Nixon proverb, trust but verify. You have to do a certain amount of trust because they represent you up until this point, you want them to represent you, across the finish line.

If you get to a point where the client hasn't budged asked them to schedule one more conversation for you. They will ask, "What's the intention?".

"I would just like to talk with them before I make my decision. It's a tough choice for me; it's important choice for me. I want to make sure I have all the information I need to make my decision."

Notice how noncommittal that is? You don't want to necessarily give the idea to the contingency recruiter that you will take the offer if the client doesn't budge. You want to get them to move a little bit And get them a little bit more flexible.

On the retained side, like I said, you can lay out the case more directly because they tend to be more forthright because they have less money at stake. Again, because of how you present it, you're always driving to the highest number. You don't have to be "nice." At this point, in the run up phase, they may have an idea of the number that is being proposed; they may not. Normally they will. Just go right to it.

"What's the number that they are talking about?"

You can respond by saying, "That's not going to be enough for me. I'm going to need them to make that 2nd number a such and such," and work from there. Start working through them and then again, go directly to the firm for one conversation. The ideal is if you walk in, but often that is not appropriate.
Skype, FaceTime, a phone call... However, works for you and them, set up one less conversation and then go for the close.

However, in situations where there is a retained search firm involved, be prepared to say yes or no on the spot. You don't want to let it dangle one because often offers are rescinded.

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

NoBSJobSearchAdvice.com
NoBSJobSearchAdvice.com

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1400 episodes and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice.” He is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council. “No BS JobSearch Advice Radio” was recently named a Top 10 podcast for job search. JobSearchTV.com was also recently named a Top 10 YouTube channel for job search.

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Schedule a free Discovery call.

If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedInLike me on Facebook.

Join and attend my classes on Skillshare. Become a premium member and get 2 months free.

Join Career Angles on Facebook and receive support, ideas and advice in your current career and job.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle on Amazon and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.” If you are starting your search, order, “Get Ready for the Job Jungle.” 

Don’t forget to give the show 5 stars and a good review in iTunes

If you want to know how to win more interviews, order “Winning Interviews.” You’ll learn how to win phone interviews, in-person interviews, the best question to ask on any interview and more.

Would you like to talk through a salary negotiation or potential negotiation you’re involved with? Order and schedule time with me.

Do you have questions or would like advice about networking or any aspect of your search. Order and schedule time with me.

Would you like me to critique your resume. Order a critique from me

Jeff’s Kindle book, “You Can Fix Stupid: No BS Hiring Advice,” is available on Amazon.

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Career Mistakes Too Many People Make | NoBSJobSearchAdvice.com


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http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebiggamehunter/2019/03/20/career-mistakes-too-many-people-make-nobsjobsearchadvicecom

EP 1409 Here I speak about a few of the mistakes people make in how they view their career.

Summary

I'm not sure that these are specifically career mistakes; I think some of them could go into business category as well. I'm going to try to cover both and start off with the big one.

1. You made a mistake. You are going to make more mistakes.. The real question is how you will respond to the mistake. Do you beat yourself up? Do you punish yourself? You spent hours or days or weeks fixating on the mistake or do try to learn your lessons and move on?

I wrestle with this 1 myself. I'm a guy who spent a lot of time searching for perfection and not spending in time, accepting excellence. Maybe you are the same way, too. I think there's a chance to learn and be kinder to oneself because there's a chance that you are going to make mistakes and more mistakes! It happens.

What can you learn from the experience? What can you do to learn and move forward from it?

2. If you are interested in being happy in your work, it is probably going to take time. Especially when someone is junior, what tends to happen is you get what is called, "grunt work." It tends to be the foundation for how people learn the fundamentals of the craft.

For example, in IT, someone starts off by being a coder. Although the technology will change over the course of time, they will use it as the baseline for how they learn and grow to manage people, how to lead organizations and such. Certainly being a kind coder doesn't guarantee that you will be a good manager, but understanding the fundamentals of your craft and not taking shortcuts will help a lot.

That's the important thing – – learning the fundamentals of your craft and not taking shortcuts. What are the fundamentals? You ask for help and advice? I'm not talking about asking your manager, but from other people? That is what's going to help guide you and help you progress.

3. Another thing is about being patient with yourself. It takes time to be successful. As I said before, the secret to success without hard work is still a secret. What can you do to lay the foundation? If you think you can figure it out by yourself, you are going to make it a lot harder than what you need to do.

4. Always be networking and always be asking other people for advice. Save the information. Collate it. Start creating spreadsheets or data categories that kind of fit with one another so that you can learn what's being told to you constantly and see whether it meets with your experience. Adapt and change.

5. The last thing going to talk with you about is the fact that so many people separate the work from the personal life. It's hard of these days, but I remember an old story from the original owner of the New York Jets. He was trying to figure out whether or not to promote someone into particular role and one person over another. The reason he made the particular choice he made as he tell the loser in the situation, that for the loser this was a job with all the template of being a job. This contrasted with the other person who loved what he did.

Your goal is to find work that you love. I don't presume to know what it is and there are a million ways to find it and figure it out. Think of your career as being a longer race than just today, even if you are in your 60s, and start laying the foundation, working at it and finding work that you really love.

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1400 episodes and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice.” He is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council. “No BS JobSearch Advice Radio” was recently named a Top 10 podcast for job search. JobSearchTV.com was also recently named a Top 10 YouTube channel for job search.

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Schedule a free Discovery call.

If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions. 

NoBSJobSearchAdvice.com
NoBSJobSearchAdvice.com

Connect with me on LinkedInLike me on Facebook.

Join and attend my classes on Skillshare. Become a premium member and get 2 months free.

Join Career Angles on Facebook and receive support, ideas and advice in your current career and job.

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle on Amazon and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.” If you are starting your search, order, “Get Ready for the Job Jungle.” 

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Don’t forget to give the show 5 stars and a good review in iTunes

If you want to know how to win more interviews, order “Winning Interviews.” You’ll learn how to win phone interviews, in-person interviews, the best question to ask on any interview and more.

Would you like to talk through a salary negotiation or potential negotiation you’re involved with? Order and schedule time with me.

Do you have questions or would like advice about networking or any aspect of your search. Order and schedule time with me.

Would you like me to critique your resume. Order a critique from me

Jeff’s Kindle book, “You Can Fix Stupid: No BS Hiring Advice,” is available on Amazon.