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Stupid Interview Mistakes: Seeming Desperate | NoBSJobSearchAdvice.com


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Ep 639 There’s something about desperation that is a turn off.

Summary

I'm back with another piece of advice designed to help you find work more quickly. This is about 1 of those stupid interview mistakes the job hunters make all the time. That is, appearing desperate.

Have you ever been on a date with someone who seemed desperate? Women, come on! You can't tell me you haven't been on a date with someone who seemed desperate! They are just too… Fill in the blank. Too much. I want to presume to know how you feel when this happens. I just simply say that in situations where I've been out with desperate women, it is not been a pleasant experience.

Women who appear desperate come across, in the male vernacular, as stalkers. I suspect the same is true on the women's side..… And worse. Such behavior in dating doesn't work and it certainly doesn't work in job search.

When you go on the interview and you seem too eager, (I act the part in the audio to demonstrate how obnoxious it seems), The hiring manager eventually asked themselves, "What's with this person?" You can't appear too eager; it's okay to be accommodating. Your role is to relax and to deal with your potential future boss as a peer so that they understand, and you understand what you are capable of doing for them so that they can evaluate and assess you and see how you fit into their needs.

Acting like the obedient schoolchild, sitting in your chair, leaning forward (I haven't done that when you were a kid), just doesn't work. It doesn't make you more attractive than other people to your future boss. If anything, it makes you less appealing! That's because you seem like you are desperate. No one really likes desperate.

Relax. Follow my advice about the single best question you should ask on any interview. Talk with them as an equal,, and explain how your background, that which they are looking for. Do it with confidence and self assurance because part of your job on interview is to put their mind that these and demonstrate that you are the solution to a problem that they have. They need someone to do such and such. You want to talk about how you did for someone else before..

In joining them, you don't want to do this for the next 30 or 40 years of your life. You want to understand the upside for you. If the role, do you want to do the same thing for the next 3 or 40 years? Of course not!

You always want to make sure you ask questions about your potential future with the organization. If you don't like the answer, don't be a schmuck can take the job And then blame them for what's happening to you. It's your fault, then.

Again, don't beg. Don't appear desperate.All

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1200 episodes, “Job Search Radio,” “and his newest

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

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In this video, Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter compares dating and interviewing and discourages you from acting like a stalker or a creep.

Summary

There is a thing in dating about being hard to get. I think this is more about women liking men who seem a little bit hard to get . . Or is it the other way around. I get confused about this. . I know for guys, it is the thing about dating, "out of your league" where there is a degree of aloofness that one party of the other experiences as part of the courtship ritual that makes them particularly attractive. Thus, in dating, you don't want to appear too eager because the other person want to slow you down. "Whoa, this person is a creep! He is just hard charging here and not particularly appealing. " For women, the idea that they are going to aggressively pursue a man is sometimes for of as being a stalker. Obviously no one wants to be seen as a stalker and no one want to be seen as a creep. Let's now apply this to job search.

The person who calls employer so frequently is seen as being desperate, as begging for the job. Unfortunately, what seems to happen is that people start to push you away because they're not ready to make a decision. As desirable as you may think these calls are and is desperate as you may feel, it is a turnoff to an employer.

Slow down. You have to work at their pace, even if it isn't yours. I know people are telling you, "Call them. Call them. Call them.Email them. Email them. Email them. Come on. Come on. Come on. " Think about it from their side. You never want to be in the position where you are seen as being a stalker.

I know there are people who call me 3 times a day; I will take their calls. Why? If I had something for them, if I had something to report, I would call them. But the instead, they called me 3 times a day thinking that they will get through to me and I refuse to award the bad behavior. They want attention, but follow this for 2nd. Doing this really keeps me away from doing what I'm really am supposed to do – – help them find a job . . And they are paying me anything!

From an employer's perspective, when they're ready to make a decision , they are going to tell you. You may just drop them a note and simply asked them, "Hi! I haven't heard from you for a while. Has there been any movement on this role?" Not multiple times a day. Not every day. It is ridiculous!

Pause for second. Put yourself in the other person's shoes Is that the way you would want to be treated?

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves career coaching, all as well as executive job search coaching and business life coaching. He is the host of “Job Search Radio,” “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice.”

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Visit www.TheBigGameHunter.us and click the relevant tab on the top of the page.

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedIn. Like me on Facebook.

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.”

Don’t forget to give the show 5 stars and a good review in iTunes

If you want to know how to win more interviews, order “Winning Interviews.” You’ll learn how to win phone interviews, in-person interviews, the best question to ask on any interview and more.

Would you like to talk through a salary negotiation or potential negotiation you’re involved with? Order and schedule time with me.

Do you have questions or would like advice about networking or any aspect of your search. Order and schedule time with me.

Would you like me to critique your resume. Order a critique from me

For more about LinkedIn, order “Stacked: Double Your Job Interviews, Leverage Recruiters and Unlock LinkedIn.”

Jeff’s Kindle book, “You Can Fix Stupid: No BS Hiring Advice,” is available on Amazon.

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Job Search Mistakes: Wanting It Too Much | JobSearchRadio.com

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter discusses one of the biggest mistakes job hunters make. This is a mistake that consistently costs you money.

Summary

This is a mistake the job hunters make all the time by falling in love with the job and falling in love with the work. The impact of doing this is that for many of you, you lose all your negotiating savvy.

Imagine for second that you walk into a house And say, "I love this place! Oh! This is fabulous!" What happens to your negotiating power? At that point the realtor knows that your sucker for a price. If the sellers there, they know that you want this house. If there are 2 of you walking in and one person is doing that, the other one is over a barrel. There is no walkaway capability.

A lot of you make that same mistake with job search. You reveal way too early on that you like the job you do to people like me, you do it to the firm that is hiring, and the impact of that is they think that they have you over the barrel.

1 of the things you always need to be prepared to do is walk away. I know we bought a house a few years ago, my wife liked it, but wasn't in love with it and she said, "This decision is yours.." I made the decision to buy. I negotiated my particular way. .. I got of the lowest price that I could and we are very happy with the house that we put money into it.

When you're negotiating with the company for job, you can't let them in on the secret that you love this job because then, they know you don't have the ability to walk away because most people don't. At that point, most people are overcommitted and the result once it being that you get less money when they offer to you.

You always need to walk in prepare to leave and not loving the idea of the job so much that you will take it for less than what you are deserving of getting it for.

I don't care with the company's budget is because the budget, at the end of the day, is irrelevant to you. What your value on the market is should be what is important to you. Don't overcommit and show that you are in love with the job.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is an executive job search and business life coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years.

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