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Review: “Live Your Legend” Tedx GoldenGate Talk


In this video, I review this inspiring Ted Talk by Scott Dinsmore. Listen to the talk.

 

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1200 episodes and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice” and is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council.

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Connect with me on LinkedIn. Then message me to schedule an initial complimentary session.

If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

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You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle on Amazon and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.” If you are starting your search, order, “Get Ready for the Job Jungle.” 

Don’t forget to give the show 5 stars and a good review in iTunes

If you want to know how to win more interviews, order “Winning Interviews.” You’ll learn how to win phone interviews, in-person interviews, the best question to ask on any interview and more.

Would you like to talk through a salary negotiation or potential negotiation you’re involved with? Order and schedule time with me.

Do you have questions or would like advice about networking or any aspect of your search. Order and schedule time with me.

Would you like me to critique your resume. Order a critique from me

Jeff’s Kindle book, “You Can Fix Stupid: No BS Hiring Advice,” is available on Amazon.

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Getting Help Proactively| JobSearchRadio.com


Listen to the full episode here:
http://webtalkradio.net/internet-talk-radio/2018/08/22/getting-help-proactively-jobsearchradio-com/

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter encourages you to get help at the beginning of your job search and not wait until you’ve lost some great opportunities you could have had and certainly wanted. 

Summary

Today, I want to talk with you about one of the most underused tools that you can have in finding work. Before I tell you what that answer is, I’m not exactly sure why people don't take advantage of it. I have my idea and I’ll talk with you about it a little bit, but, if you have a difference of opinion, leave a comment. Let me know your thoughts.

But what I find is that most job hunters go thrashing around to try and find work. By that I mean the write a resume. They rewrite a resume. They rewrite a resume and rewrite a resume. Same with their cover letter. Over and over, they go.

They go out on interviews; they make mistakes. They learn from their mistakes. They answer ads in the newspaper. They read some stuff (maybe) and then, eventually, they start getting it right more often than not, get a job offer. Then, the next time they go out look for job, they do the same thing all over again.

Here's my advice to you. I’ll start by saying I'm not sure exactly why people don't do it, but here's my advice-- ask for help. Get a coach. Hire someone to do some things for you. Get advice out-of-the-box. Read some things. Talk to your friends about their experience at the beginning of the search, not when you're out there screwing up opportunities that you could have had but through your ignorance and inexperience you don't get.

I happen to do coaching. If you want to contact me about coaching, connect with me on LinkedIn and then message me and we’ll set up a time to speak. If you want to hire someone else, if you want to ask a friend for coaching, get coaching. Get advice. Hire people to write your resume for you. Instead of making all these mistakes that cost opportunity. Let me give you an example of what the cost is for you.

You've a one-time upfront cost if you hire a resume writer. I don't do resumes. I can point you to firms that do resume writing and do it very well, but if you hire a coach, you pay a fee for the advice. That fee can be as much as $1000 - $2000 for the first month and a residual thereafter. It can be less than that.

Ultimately, what happens is you are going to get a raise for a few thousand dollars, you are going to have an improved quality of life and lifestyle and, better than that, you are not going to blow opportunities that you could have had if you had just got out and gotten help at the beginning of the search.

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for what more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1200 episodes, “Job Search Radio,” “and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice” and is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council.

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Connect with me on LinkedIn. Then message me to schedule an initial complimentary session.

If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedIn. Like me on Facebook.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Join and attend my classes on Skillshare. Become a premium member and get 2 months free.

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle on Amazon and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.” If you are starting your search, order, “Get Ready for the Job Jungle.”

Don’t forget to give the show 5 stars and a good review in iTunes

If you want to know how to win more interviews, order “Winning Interviews.” You’ll learn how to win phone interviews, in-person interviews, the best question to ask on any interview and more.

Would you like to talk through a salary negotiation or potential negotiation you’re involved with? Order and schedule time with me.

Do you have questions or would like advice about networking or any aspect of your search. Order and schedule time with me.

Would you like me to critique your resume. Order a critique from me

For more about LinkedIn, order “Stacked: Double Your Job Interviews, Leverage Recruiters and Unlock LinkedIn.”

Jeff’s Kindle book, “You Can Fix Stupid: No BS Hiring Advice,” is available on Amazon.

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Asking For Help With Job Hunting | JobSearchRadio.com


Listen to the full episode here:
http://webtalkradio.net/internet-talk-radio/2018/08/21/asking-for-help-with-job-hunting-jobsearchradio-com/

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter speaks out about the challenges many people have with asking for help in their job search.

Summary

Today, I want to talk with you about asking for help . . . coaching . . . Getting advice. Things along those lines.

More often than not in job search, just like it is in your professional life, when it comes time to asking for help, you are either at the point of desperation or because of a partner, a spouse, a person you work with, a manager a board member . . . Someone along those line has basically told you, you need to fix something. Something isn’t working for you and you gotta get better at it.

So, in job search, most the time when I talk with people in my coaching practice, they think that asking for coaching basically translates into, “I'm going to tell them exactly where to find the job and they’re going to magically get it.” It doesn't work that way.

What you really want out of your coaching, what you really want out of asking for help is advice from someone who can challenge all your preconceived notions about what you need to do, someone who's going to argue with you at times and you can respect.

You see, one of the things that happens more often than not in job search coaching is (I will use the example of the wife who nags her husband. I know this is a stereotype, but in this particular case, stereotype is often very true). The wife nags the husband incessantly.

“You’re doing a terrible job!” I don't caricaturing women. That's how guys hear it.

“You’re doing a terrible job! You need help! Go ask this person for help!” Eventually, many people just do it to shut someone up. It's the wrong way to go into the relationship.

What you really want to do, what you will really need to do is to humbly ask yourself, “What’s not working? Why am I not getting the results I think I need, I think I want and who can I ask for advice and counsel?” I want to go one extra step and challenge you and the challenge is that, more often than not, the things we think we need our not the ones we actually need. So, that's why you need someone who can trust who can challenge your preconceived notions about how to go about finding work, how to improve in your work . . . Whatever it is you're searching coaching for, whatever you're asking for help with and be prepared to listen to them and take action.

I know it's hard because, most of us think we’re right about everything and that's exactly the wrong attitude to take. Ultimately, it comes down to something isn't working in your career, something isn’t working your job search. You need to correct that. You need to go outside your preconceived notions in order to figure out what the problem is and, maybe, you are right. But, I can tell you from experience, 95 times out of 100 people come to me for coaching are dead wrong about what the problem is.

So, I want you to hear these next words very carefully. They are said with kindness.

Shut up and listen

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for what more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1200 episodes, “Job Search Radio,” “and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice” and is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council.

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Connect with me on LinkedIn. Then message me to schedule an initial complimentary session.

If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedIn. Like me on Facebook.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Join and attend my classes on Skillshare. Become a premium member and get 2 months free.

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle on Amazon and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.” If you are starting your search, order, “Get Ready for the Job Jungle.”

Don’t forget to give the show 5 stars and a good review in iTunes

If you want to know how to win more interviews, order “Winning Interviews.” You’ll learn how to win phone interviews, in-person interviews, the best question to ask on any interview and more.

Would you like to talk through a salary negotiation or potential negotiation you’re involved with? Order and schedule time with me.

Do you have questions or would like advice about networking or any aspect of your search. Order and schedule time with me.

Would you like me to critique your resume. Order a critique from me

For more about LinkedIn, order “Stacked: Double Your Job Interviews, Leverage Recruiters and Unlock LinkedIn.”

Jeff’s Kindle book, “You Can Fix Stupid: No BS Hiring Advice,” is available on Amazon.

Why Do People Hire Career Coaches? | NoBSJobSearchAdvice.com


Listen to the full episode here:
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/thebiggamehunter/2018/03/24/why-do-people-hire-career-coaches-nobsjobsearchadvicecom

EP 1053 I offer one basic reason and two scenarios for why someone should hire a career coach.

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves career coaching, all as well as executive job search coaching and life coaching. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1000 episodes,“ Job Search Radio,” “and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice” and is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council.

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Visit www.TheBigGameHunter.us and click the relevant tab on the top of the page.

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedIn. Like me on Facebook.

Join and attend my classes on Skillshare. Become a premium member and get 1 month free.

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle on Amazon and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.” If you are starting your search, order, “Get Ready for the Job Jungle.”

Don’t forget to give the show 5 stars and a good review in iTunes

If you want to know how to win more interviews, order “Winning Interviews.” You’ll learn how to win phone interviews, in-person interviews, the best question to ask on any interview and more.

Would you like to talk through a salary negotiation or potential negotiation you’re involved with? Order and schedule time with me.

Do you have questions or would like advice about networking or any aspect of your search. Order and schedule time with me.

Would you like me to critique your resume. Order a critique from me

For more about LinkedIn, order “Stacked: Double Your Job Interviews, Leverage Recruiters and Unlock LinkedIn.”

Jeff’s Kindle book, “You Can Fix Stupid: No BS Hiring Advice,” is available on Amazon.

Job Search Radio

Is It Normal? | JobSearchRadio.com

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter answers the question as to whether a situation is normal when his employer extends someone and want them to verbally accept a job offer before they put the offer in writing. The offer mentioned on the show is no longer valid.
Summary

Is it normal for a company to refuse sending details of an offer by email before I verbally accept an offer?

This person is orally received an offer, they want to get an offer letter, there wondering why they don't have the letter as of yet. Is it normal for me to say yes and then have the letter sent?

The answer is, "Yes," it is normal. The reason is, why should they go through all the final approvals, have admin type something, send it to you only to find out that you are not going to accept the job offer? Isn't that kind of pointless from your standpoint? I sure know it's pointless from their standpoint.

While the offer letter does is confirm what you have already been told. You are going to be paid a certain amount, that you might be eligible for a bonus, the offer is contingent upon you successfully completed a background check, etc. etc.

If they lied to you, no one is asking you to quit your job until you have the offer letter. All the offer letter does is confirm what you have been told. If you were them, harnessing manpower/woman power or however you want to describe it to process this offer letter and you intend to turn it down, what was the point anyway?

They want to hear the acceptance from you 1st, then do all the mechanics to deliver a letter for you. It is completely normal.

 
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is an executive job search and business life coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years.
 
If you are a listener who is interested in 1 on 1 coaching, email me at JeffAltman(at)TheBigGameHunter.us​ 

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com has great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.

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You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle for $.99 and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.”

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Would/Should You Pay a Career Coach/Consultant to Write Your Resume & Coach Interviewing | JobSearchTV.com


I may be biased, but I believe my answer is right.

Summary

The question I received was, "Would you or should you ever hire a career coach to write your resume or help you with interview skills?" I'm assuming the question really comes down to, "Why should you do this? What's the advantage to doing this to a prompt you doing this?"

It's really an easy answer, AND I want to acknowledge the fact that I am a coach. I don't write resumes. I do help people with interview skills. Here's why I think it is worth your while.

The reason is that you are an amateur. You don't know what you're doing.. Yes, you can follow a formula online but, you know, you are not Average Jane or Average Joe. You are who you are with your unique set of skills and, yes, you can create or use a template for your resume (although I don't. Recommend that you do so), you could read lots of books, but is not the same as interacting with someone. Let me use the example of resume writing. There is a difference between a professional resume and an amateur resume. You can spot right away and it is a discernible difference.

Interview skills. People come to me to help them answer interview questions and, Lord knows, I have done a lot of videos about how to answer individual questions. However, it's different interacting with someone and not just simply watching a video. How to answer the question seems to be absorbed better and more deeply than when you simply watch the video and click the equivalent of the remote (or the actual remote) and go to the next channel to watch something else.

I'm sure you know that the 10,000 hour rule that Malcolm Gladwell popularized-- 10,000 hours of focused effort under the auspices of the master will help you become an expert.

You have how much experience writing resumes? Seriously, how much experience you have writing resume? And how much experience do you have interviewing? As I've said before, you hiring managers you think it's the same thing because you've gone out and hired people for yourself, you think you have this big advantage now that you're out interviewing… Your behavior and the behavior of others like you demonstrates to me consistently that almost all of you are awful at interviewing.

The fact of the matter is, you don't know what you're doing, you think you do and then put yourself in a bind. When you don't get the results that you want. Coaches will help you by helping you improve quickly and, perhaps, proactively resume writers will work with you to help you craft a great document. Yes, you will pay money for this, but no one works for free. After all, do you? You have a job. They have a job. Each of you wants to get paid for it. The benefit to you is huge because doors get open to you that would normally be closed because you would not know what you're doing and make goofy mistakes.

Interviewing. You will get better results faster having worked with a coach, than not working with a coach Because, again, I will speak for myself,The people I work with perform better on their interviews because they have had a chance to test things out with me and they can ask me questions proactively

For example, there is this 1 guy who is going up for very senior roles in organizations and he is asking me for advice about each interview step along the way as well as the things they are going to be looking for from him what is going to be the theme of the interview, not just simply answer the question and, as a result, he can position himself effectively by doing that.

It doesn't matter where you are because all of you can benefit from coaching because you think you know what you doing and think that is good enough . . . But good enough isn't.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves life coaching, as well as executive job search coaching and business life coaching.

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedIn. Like me on Facebook.

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle for $.99 and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.”

 

Are you interested in executive job search coaching, leadership coaching or life coaching from me?  Email me at [email protected] and put the word, “Coaching” in the subject line

What is Going to Be Different? (VIDEO)


Too many organizations suffer mediocrity because they have industrialize their workforce and turned them into machine-like disposable commodities.

What is going to be different?

Summary

This morning, I was thinking about a workshop I attended many years ago that Tony Robbins gave. In it, he spoke about his Stanford University research study where it identified that people are sold to in a number of different ways.

The study according to Robbins identified a number of different categories that people fall into. There are people longer's, achievers, emulators, societally conscious people, and needs driven people. When you look at modern advertising, you can see that they all fall into 1 of these 5 categories.

Up the longer is someone who wants to be a part of something. Those result in the classic beer commercials where everyone is sitting around the bar having a good time, laughing and joking. They want to be a part of something.

There are the achievers who know they are successful and are sold to in an understated sort of way. There are certain products that are sold to that market.

There are the emulators who want to be achievers but are too young and don't make enough money. They tend to be sold to every commercial where you see a leg get out of the car or see someone who is great looking, staring at you through the camera, that tends to be a commercial geared toward emulators.

Societally conscious individuals are where I am going to focus on today. They don't want to be sold to.. Give me the facts and stop selling to me. The Internet is a great tool for information being delivered to that marketplace.

Needs driven people are poor and there are not a lot of products geared toward them because they don't have enough money to buy much. They are not the focus here. We are going to focus on those people considered "societally conscious."

When we deal with people at work, we tend to deal with them as though "Don't ask me for anything. This is what your job is. Shut up and just do it." We don't say it that way; we just have expectations as though they worked in a factory still, even though they now work at the desk at your offices or at their home office. You treat them as though they are disposable individuals who are going to be measured, analyzed, evaluated, critiqued and punished as though they worked in a 19th-century factory.

Don't believe me? Look at how you deal with people on a day to day basis. Do you really care or are you more concerned about what your boss is going to think about you unless your people do something in particular?

If you're honest, most of you conduct yourself with that factory mentality, where you are worried about the boss upstairs, looking down and penalizing you if your people don't do what they are supposed to do and get the results that they are supposed to get.

The issue comes down to how do you relate to them? How you interact with you people that makes them want to not be factory workers or information workers or whatever kind of 21st-century robot or drudge that you are turning them into.

I will simply say that you are functioning like a "manager." The big mistake you're making is that your managing behavior. Instead of "managing," I want to encourage you to lead, to inspire, to get them excited about their work again.

How do you do that? I don't know your office to give you a convenient handy-dandy ways to the you can just unzip a solution from a plastic bag. (Another industrial solution), shakeup and poor and everything is going to be fine. You have to wake up and do some things differently. Otherwise, your work is going to be tedious, so is their's, you will get best effort from them… And that is really what you want.

For you, you want to feel great going to work instead of the monotony of the bus/the train/the traffic... The "what time can I leave today." You want to love what you do, enjoy it and delight in it and be able to inspire people to feel the same way.

Don't just simply treat them like factory workers in the 19th century. It isn't working; you have to do it differently. . . Or else.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for JobSearchCoachingHQ.com and NoBSCoachingAdvice.com

Follow him at The Big Game Hunter, Inc. on LinkedIn for more articles, videos and podcasts than what are offered here and jobs he is recruiting for.

Connect with me on LinkedIn

Follow The Big Game Hunter, Inc.

For more No BS Coaching Advice & encouragement, visit my website.

Ready to schedule your first coaching call?

 

 

Secrets of Successful People They Are in Charge (VIDEO)


Continuing my series on secrets of successful people, I discuss another quality that they possess– they are in charge . . . But not in the way that your thinking.

Summary

I am continuing the series that I'm doing about the secrets of successful people. The title is a little misleading in that most people will think they when I say, "THEY ARE IN CHARGE," that I mean that they are the boss of their own enterprise. They are the owner. They are that this. They are the that. The fact is that that is not what I am talking about.

People who are successful act like professionals. They work at their craft. If they don't feel like doing something that is part of their job they do it anyway. You see what they learned over the course of time is that practice does make perfect. Maybe not perfect but it does make better than they are now. The result was a being that for most (for lack of a better term) "amateurs," they quit on themselves. They sell themselves short. They think, "I'm not good at this," and as a result, don't strive to achieve more.

I was coaching someone, a week or 2 ago who is trying to put together a program for an organization that she is involved with and she was saying, "I'm not a creative sorts. I can do a lot of the tactical things and I'm not really good at thinking creatively." That was her patented excuse for why she couldn't do this project.

As I start to explore things with her, I got her to see that creativity, although there are gifts to it, for many is an acquired craft. As you start to develop more objective skill and more measurable skill, often the creativity comes in later. For her, her mind was so locked in. That was hard for her to see anything differently.

For you who may be looking at how to be successful, there are times where you're going to want to shut up, shut down and not do the work. I'm often reminded of a quote, "The secret to success without work is still a secret." I love that quote!

There are no accidents. There are no guarantees. Putting the effort in and taking charge of your mind, and the ways that it sabotages you is a starting place for a lot of successful people.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for JobSearchCoachingHQ.com and NoBSCoachingAdvice.com

Follow him at The Big Game Hunter, Inc. on LinkedIn for more articles, videos and podcasts than what are offered here and jobs he is recruiting for.

Connect with me on LinkedIn

Follow The Big Game Hunter, Inc.

For more No BS Coaching Advice & encouragement, visit my website.

Ready to schedule your first coaching call?

In Much of Life, Safety Isn’t Safe (VIDEO)


Jeff speaks about the problems of playing it safe, offers two suggestions and closes with a quote from Confucius.

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is an executive job search and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years.

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com is there to change that with great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I on function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.

Connect with me on LinkedIn http://bit.ly/thebiggamehunter

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle for $.99 and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.”

Why Is Change So Hard?

Originally published at www.NoBSCoachingAdvice.com

I don’t know for sure how it is for you, but, for me, changing is no easy matter. I feel like every “I” must be dotted and ”t” crossed at least a dozen times before me to think it was even possible to consider taking a leap.

Years ago, when I decided to get my Masters while pursuing my existing career as a headhunter, I remember having to overcome my fear of returning to class after 25 years, making time out of my already busy schedule to attend class PLUS make more time for field work, my fear of feeling foolish, failing at both my current career and getting mediocre grades in school, subjecting myself to mocking by co-workers (recruiters are not particularly a sympathetic breed of animal by and large), my parents’ questioning (You have a good job. Why do you need to spend so much money), how I was going to do all the reading (it was common in one class to read a 400 page book weekly) and more.

I remember saying to myself, “I will eat and sleep work and school for a few weeks until I sort out how to do this,” and push aside anything else for a few months. The challenge of grad school and work was hard and has served me well for the past 18 months when I started coaching AND headhunting with an eye toward transitioning to full time coaching at the end of 2016.

The later in the year I got, the greater my fear and anxiety grew (I am not going to differentiate between the two in this article) until reaching its zenith during my final course for the year, amusingly enough called, “Inner Freedom.”

When I started to examine some of my physical reactions when my fear was heightened, I discovered some old triggers resurfacing. I remembered a time in first grade where a teacher slammed me against the back if my chair when I didn’t know the answer to 3+2 after being out of school for a week and very ill. I remembered times I failed in my mind, even though to others I had done extremely well and was very effective however my interpretation of the events as they unfolded minimized my help and emphasized my self-evaluated inadequacies.

I started to construct a logical plan to move forward with my coaching practice and constructed a simple blueprint: List what I was afraid of in excruciating detail. No item was too small or trivial to make the list. All that needed to happen was that it pop into my mind. Pretty easy, so far except I kept telling myself, “That isn’t important enough,” until I made the rule that required me to list it no matter what.

From there, next to each item, I started to list what I could do to minimize that item from occurring. For example, if I were afraid I might have no coaching clients, what could I do to minimize the likelihood of that occurring (to be clear, I am currently working with quite a few men and women around the United States regarding one professional or personal challenge or another. Reality has no basis for my fears).

My final step in addressing my logical mind was to ask myself, “If all else fails, what could I do if I failed at this? What could I do to return to my previous circumstances?” That was a very easy way to address . . . all I needed to do was return to my current career.

And admit failure.

That was a painful one for me. I HATE to fail (You, too, huh). I like to present myself as an expert and am in most situations I step into. But if this one didn’t work out, I would have to confess that I was unsuccessful marketing myself effectively. “It wasn’t that I was a bad coach,” I reminded myself. I just didn’t market myself well.

All of this didn’t address the emotional side of my struggle. I know that in our current world, people are being asked to think mathematically in terms of risk when making decisions. For me, logic was an incomplete measure. For me, the emotional component standing in my way, as illogical as it seemed, was that no one would want to hear what I had to say.

I found that along the way, I accepted the industrial age programming that my parents, the schools I attended, even my employers instilled in me to, “Shut up. Do what I am told. Regurgitate a bunch of stuff on command . . . or else.”

Or else I wouldn’t get into a college.

Or else I wouldn’t get a good job.

Or else I would be fired.

This was all the nonsense of voices in my mind that I heard from others, took on as my own, and that had inhibited me in so many ways. Any of you have voices in your head that aren’t really your own and inhibit you?

I have always been a strong performer but all the programming said, “Don’t take the risk! You could fail!!”

So back to the list I went to look up, “You could fail,” and saw, “Anything is possible but if you do, you can always go back to recruiting. It might take a few months to become productive again but you can always go back.”

What holds you back? What is the story you have been telling yourself to keep yourself small and avoid the career, business or life you want?

Working with a coach provides you with different eyes and ears on a problems and can give you a missing perspective on what you are wrestling with.

Great athletes and entertainers all have coaches. Many business leaders do, too. All of them develop relationships with their coaches that gives them perspective on their leadership and their lives.

Make the new year your best ever.

© The Big Game Hunter, Inc. Asheville, NC 2016

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter has been coaching people to play their professional and personal games BIG for what seems like 100 years.

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