EP 1790 I made almost the same mistake in the past so I understand.

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I'm Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter. I'm a career and leadership coach and the head coach for JobSearchCoachingHQ.com and NoBSCoachingAdvice.com. There was a story in a newspaper. I'm going to read the question that was posed and I'm going to answer from my own experience, not the one from the paper. Okay?
"I cannot be any clearer," they write. "I absolutely hate my job. I hate everyone. I'm sorry. I hate everyone I work with. I dreadgetting up in the mornings knowing I have to go to my job. I'm 37, but remember back in my 20s that if I didn't like where I worked, I would just say, ' screw this," ' and leave. I'm not sure what's happened to me. I've been in my current job for the past five years, trying to get my kids through high school and off to college. I only have three years to go. We've been saving for their college ever since they were born but it's getting to the point where I'm not sure I'm gonna be able to make it for another three years.
"Why is it so hard for me to leave? I've had numerous job offers for more money but always turned them down and stayed where I am andthen kick myself for doing so."
My own experience. I've used to work in the search business doing recruiting and I worked for some lunatics. One, in particular, felt particularly abusive yet I hung in there and I did so despite verbal abuse and having phone calls listened into and being perpetually lied to about whether commissions were in . . . And I did so because I have responsibilities and I sucked it up for my family and I made that choice and eventually got to the point where I left. I just didn't want to put up with anymore.
In other organizations, I worked in when I was younger, it was no big whoop. Like I was 20 years old when I got out of college. Yes. It was young and I started my business my first business when I was 21 and a half with a partner. He was a little older but still, you know, 21 and a half.
It was no big deal and a few years later, you know, I decided I didn't want to work with this guy anymore and took action. I almost immediately started another business and ,what starts to happen is, as you get older you start to feel more responsibilities. As a single guy,I really didn't care. I had bank. I was looking out for myself. If I made a mistake, Mom and Dad could always rescue me.
As you get older, even if they're there to rescue you, you don't want to ask. You want to demonstrate . . . I wanted to demonstrate that I could do this on my own. So, I sucked it up and I suspect this person's doing that too.
They are growing to tolerate things that they really shouldn't need to tolerate The reality is the biggest mistake here is that ,when given the opportunity to leave and receive job offers, you haven't done so. It's not that you should quit. No. You've got responsibilities. You've got bills to pay. You've got a college education that you want to contribute to fund it. Great.Virtuous. The right thing to do. It's a responsible thing to do to look out for your family. No arguments and you've been to other organizations on interviews apparently and when, made the offer, fear has gotten the best of you.
I want to encourage you do it again. but, this time, be prepared to make a move. Understand that putting up with stuff doesn't make you a hero. There's virtue in the desire to be of service. But if you sacrifice your life and wind up being miserable, it will leak out at home with your wife-husband or partner.
It will leak out with your kids. It will damage your relationship with them because you're not going to feel good about yourself.
So, my encouragement is get out there again and go out on interviews and find something better. Understand that if there's a recession inthe next couple of years, you will probably lose your job where you are now and you might lose the next job, too. That's the reality to it.
So, you have to have some savings in place for yourself in order to sustain your situation if things happen but () big "but" here () there's no reason to put up with stuff that you don't like and people that you don't like and ia situation that you don't like and you're living in dread.
So, that's from my experience. I haven't read what the conclusion wasfrom the columnist. I'll just simply say that's my own opinion.
So I hope you find this helpful. If you'd be interested in my coaching you through transition through job change through positioning yourself in the next organization so you can step into your leadership more effectively, connect with me on LinkedIn at www.linkedin.com/in/TheBigGameHunter. Mention that you saw this video. I just like knowing that I'm helpful topeople and, in addition, once we're connected, message me about coaching. we'll schedule a time for an introductory conversation.
Hope you found this helpful and have a great day.
Take care.

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JeffAltman, The Big Game Hunter
JeffAltman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves career coaching, all as well as executive job search coaching, job coaching and interview coaching. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1700 episodes and “The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast” and is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council. “No BS JobSearch Advice Radio” was named a Top 10 podcast for job search. JobSearchTV.com is also a Top 10 YouTube channel for job search.

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