Why don’t you ask for help or advice?

Why don’t you ask for help or advice?

By Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter


I recently ran a poll on LinkedIn that asked, “Some situations you face would be fixed if you asked for help or advice. Why don’t you ask for help or advice?”


I don’t need any help/advice                3%
I can figure it out                               29%
I should know the answer                35%
I’m embarrassed to ask                   32%
When I posed the answers in the poll, I thought answers 1 and 2 (I don’t need help and I can figure it out) were carved from the same wood.
Answers 3 and 4 were particularly interesting to me. 
I should know the answer and I am embarrassed to ask reflect shame that doesn’t serve people. 
Who will judge you if you ask for help or advice?
Do you think we should expect you to know everything about everything?
These attitudes (67% of the respondents) reflect a concern about what others think of you and won’t help you. After all, when people feel embarrassed or hold judgments of themselves (I should know the answer), they tend to fold in on themselves and become small and hide.
Hiding is not a behavior or habit to cultivate because it fosters hiding as a valid response.


Jeff Altman, The Big Game HunterJeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 2300 episodes. He also hosts Job Search TV on YouTube, Amazon and Roku, as well as on BingeNetworks.tv for Apple TV and 90+ smart sets.

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