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Don’t Act Desperate! | No BS Job Search Advice Radio

EP 948 Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter compares dating and interviewing and discourages you from acting like a stalker or a creep.

Summary

There is a thing in dating about being hard to get. I think this is more about women liking men who seem a little bit hard to get . . Or is it the other way around. I get confused about this. . I know for guys, it is the thing about dating, "out of your league" where there is a degree of aloofness that one party of the other experiences as part of the courtship ritual that makes them particularly attractive. Thus, in dating, you don't want to appear too eager because the other person want to slow you down. "Whoa, this person is a creep! He is just hard charging here and not particularly appealing. " For women, the idea that they are going to aggressively pursue a man is sometimes for of as being a stalker. Obviously no one wants to be seen as a stalker and no one want to be seen as a creep. Let's now apply this to job search.

The person who calls employer so frequently is seen as being desperate, as begging for the job. Unfortunately, what seems to happen is that people start to push you away because they're not ready to make a decision. As desirable as you may think these calls are and is desperate as you may feel, it is a turnoff to an employer.

Slow down. You have to work at their pace, even if it isn't yours. I know people are telling you, "Call them. Call them. Call them.Email them. Email them. Email them. Come on. Come on. Come on. " Think about it from their side. You never want to be in the position where you are seen as being a stalker.

I know there are people who call me 3 times a day; I will take their calls. Why? If I had something for them, if I had something to report, I would call them. But the instead, they called me 3 times a day thinking that they will get through to me and I refuse to award the bad behavior. They want attention, but follow this for 2nd. Doing this really keeps me away from doing what I'm really am supposed to do – – help them find a job . . And they are paying me anything!

From an employer's perspective, when they're ready to make a decision , they are going to tell you. You may just drop them a note and simply asked them, "Hi! I haven't heard from you for a while. Has there been any movement on this role?" Not multiple times a day. Not every day. It is ridiculous!

Pause for second. Put yourself in the other person's shoes Is that the way you would want to be treated?

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Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
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Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1400 episodes and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice.” He is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council. “No BS JobSearch Advice Radio” was recently named a Top 10 podcast for job search. JobSearchTV.com was also recently named a Top 10 YouTube channel for job search.

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In this video, Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter compares dating and interviewing and discourages you from acting like a stalker or a creep.

Summary

There is a thing in dating about being hard to get. I think this is more about women liking men who seem a little bit hard to get . . Or is it the other way around. I get confused about this. . I know for guys, it is the thing about dating, "out of your league" where there is a degree of aloofness that one party of the other experiences as part of the courtship ritual that makes them particularly attractive. Thus, in dating, you don't want to appear too eager because the other person want to slow you down. "Whoa, this person is a creep! He is just hard charging here and not particularly appealing. " For women, the idea that they are going to aggressively pursue a man is sometimes for of as being a stalker. Obviously no one wants to be seen as a stalker and no one want to be seen as a creep. Let's now apply this to job search.

The person who calls employer so frequently is seen as being desperate, as begging for the job. Unfortunately, what seems to happen is that people start to push you away because they're not ready to make a decision. As desirable as you may think these calls are and is desperate as you may feel, it is a turnoff to an employer.

Slow down. You have to work at their pace, even if it isn't yours. I know people are telling you, "Call them. Call them. Call them.Email them. Email them. Email them. Come on. Come on. Come on. " Think about it from their side. You never want to be in the position where you are seen as being a stalker.

I know there are people who call me 3 times a day; I will take their calls. Why? If I had something for them, if I had something to report, I would call them. But the instead, they called me 3 times a day thinking that they will get through to me and I refuse to award the bad behavior. They want attention, but follow this for 2nd. Doing this really keeps me away from doing what I'm really am supposed to do – – help them find a job . . And they are paying me anything!

From an employer's perspective, when they're ready to make a decision , they are going to tell you. You may just drop them a note and simply asked them, "Hi! I haven't heard from you for a while. Has there been any movement on this role?" Not multiple times a day. Not every day. It is ridiculous!

Pause for second. Put yourself in the other person's shoes Is that the way you would want to be treated?

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves career coaching, all as well as executive job search coaching and business life coaching. He is the host of “Job Search Radio,” “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice.”

Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Visit www.TheBigGameHunter.us and click the relevant tab on the top of the page.

JobSearchCoachingHQ.com offers great advice for job hunters—videos, my books and guides to job hunting, podcasts, articles, PLUS a community for you to ask questions of PLUS the ability to ask me questions where I function as your ally with no conflict of interest answering your questions.  

Connect with me on LinkedIn. Like me on Facebook.

You can order a copy of “Diagnosing Your Job Search Problems” for Kindle and receive free Kindle versions of “No BS Resume Advice” and “Interview Preparation.”

Don’t forget to give the show 5 stars and a good review in iTunes

If you want to know how to win more interviews, order “Winning Interviews.” You’ll learn how to win phone interviews, in-person interviews, the best question to ask on any interview and more.

Would you like to talk through a salary negotiation or potential negotiation you’re involved with? Order and schedule time with me.

Do you have questions or would like advice about networking or any aspect of your search. Order and schedule time with me.

Would you like me to critique your resume. Order a critique from me

For more about LinkedIn, order “Stacked: Double Your Job Interviews, Leverage Recruiters and Unlock LinkedIn.”

Jeff’s Kindle book, “You Can Fix Stupid: No BS Hiring Advice,” is available on Amazon.