Re-Reading the Chapter | The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast
By Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
EP 188 Dwelling of mistakes is a pastime of mine. This episode is as much for me as for you as I share how re-reading the same chapter affects me.
We tend to think that our situation is unique to us. We tend to make things more complicated often than they need to be.
A lot of people second-guess themselves in their decisions. You made a mistake. That’s the fact of it. You made a mistake. And then they go through the process of self-flagellation, beating themselves up, whipping their backs, punishing themselves frequently because they weren’t perfect. Who said you were supposed to be perfect? How did you get that message that you might never make a mistake, like you’re not a machine? This isn’t zero defect manufacturing. How did you get that message? And really, that isn’t important how you get it? You got it. Put it on a parent. It could have been in school. Somewhere along the lines, you learned “I can’t make a mistake. Thus, you put yourself in a confinement box that limits your ability to step up and play big in the world.
Folks, a lifetime isn’t going to last forever. Trust me. If you’ve ever seen my face, you’ll know I know what I’m talking about. You’ve got to get going. The circumstances– it is what it is. Now what are you going to do with that information? What are you going to do to change things? How do you move forward from this point so that you can get to where you want to get to in the first place? Your life doesn’t have to be perpetual sorrow, nor should it be. Your life should be glorious and delightful and pleasant. The fact is you’re going to make mistakes. Punishing yourself isn’t going to change anything. AND it’s just going to leave you stuck in a lot of pain.
Go out there again. Do something grand. Don’t quit keep going.
I remember reading a book many years ago, “The Gulag Archipelago” written by Alexander Solzhenitsyn. I didn’t finish it. The reason I didn’t finish it was I kept rereading a chapter over and over again and the result wound up being I couldn’t start the new chapter let alone finish the book as I kept rereading the previous chapter. Folks I’m going to bring that to your life. You made a mistake and here’s some facts for you. If you keep dwelling on the past, you’re never going to move to a new place. You’re going to be stuck where you are, just like I was in that book.
It’s time to get going. Get busy, or as the Stephen King movie says, get busy living or get busy dying
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ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER
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