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Lessons from a Backup Catcher


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Austin Romine is an unlikely source of advice but today he is. Today’s advice comes from an interview he did yesterday with a great suggestion for us all.

Summary

Hi, I'm Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter and you are listening to The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast. I like to spend some time regularly talking with you about some element of life, the universe and everything. Today,I picked up something from the sports pages, which I tend to read regularly ,and it's a story that was featured in the New York Post. A little quote from a backup baseball players it's not by me.
Austin Romine . . . I believe that's the correct pronunciation of his last name and, if it isn't, I apologize. Austin Romine is a backup catcher with the New York Yankees. He gets to play once, sometimes ,twice a week because they're starting catcher, Gary Sanchez is a monster behind the plate and an adequate catcher defensively Romine is a strong catcher defensively and, well, he can hit about his weight maybe a little bit more .
As the story goes, going into the season, he was encouraged to do better offensively and basically was told that he had to hit better. when you are a back up in Major League Baseball,you know that when you're being told that you have to hit better, you better hit better because there's always someone else out there.
It's not like you are a starter and you were star and whatever defensive liability you may have can be made up by being a monster at the plate. Here,you're being told improve. So, the story goes that he learned a valuable lesson. Here it isfolks.
"Stop trying to do what I want to do and do what I have to do with the play. Whatever the job calls for, get it done." And what he did was go to another backup player who hit for average. Wasn't a great player like, again, plays once or twice a week, but the guy hits. .310. 290. he's a good backup player and fields well and hits more than well .As a result, Romine's average has gone from like low 200s to over 300 at this point.
The reason I bring up this story is how many of us, myself included, try to force the issue instead of just going with what's necessary. In this particular case, Romaine went to the other backup, learned how to hit a little bit differently. As he said, by shortening my swing, going to the other field more often, etcetera. What can you be doing differently, instead of hitting your head against the wall?
Not sure? Hire a coach. I'd like to coach you but, if not me, hire someone else and get some input. Develop a relationship because it's often not just one thing that needs to be a changed. Maybe, over time, in order for it to take hold.
So, again, if you'd be interested in my coaching you, reach out to me. My LinkedIn profiles ais t linkedin.com /in/TheBigGameHunter. Connect with me there. Then message me about coaching. I'd love to help you.
Hope you have a great day. Take care.

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

head coach for NoBSCoachingAdvice.com. He is the host of “The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast,” “No BS Job Search Advice,” and “Job Search Radio.”

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Assigning responsibility

Assigning Responsibility | The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast


Ah! A question from a friend is the catalyst for this week’s show that asks about who you assign responsibility to for your circumstances eventually ends with speaking about the challenge you have to changing

Summary

This is The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast, Episode 126. I'm your host, Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter and welcome. Weekly, I like to spend a little bit of time talking with you about some element of Life, the Universe, Everything, really everything.

SEGMENT 1. Yesterday, I was sitting with a few friends at our local restaurant, just sitting and shooting the breeze as we tend to do once a week. One of them walked in with two questions in honor of Mother's Day (by the way, Happy Mother's Day to those of you who would celebrate Mother's Day). He walked in with two questions for us, which I thought were wonderful.
The first question-- "Who have I assigned the responsibility in the past to for where I am in life today?"
You know, so many people blame individuals from their past for why they have the lives that they have today. These people occupy an enormous amount of real estate in their lives.
How's that blame working for you? What can you do to change that? How do you change that? Who do you need support from in order to change it because if you're blaming someone, trust me, that's not a good thing, right? You want to be moving forward in your life and creating, designing, however you want to explain it, you want to have the life that you want to have. You don't want to be living in the past and using that as a convenient excuse.
Figure it out. Seriously, figure out the life that you want. Start taking steps toward moving toward it, because, otherwise, otherwise, it's like shopping at a discount store when you could be shopping at the best store in the world. You're living in your past,
It's a cheap seat, you could be doing so much better. Really, you could do so much better.

SEGMENT 2. When I work with a lot of people, so much of what I run into, are people who have been conditioned to conforming. Like, when we hear the expression professionally, "Team player." What does that really mean?
A team player is someone who works within a system to do what we tell them to do. Or we threaten them, really, we threaten them. You learn that in school; you learn that in your family. You learn to go along with things.
But one thing you start to realize professionally if you're paying attention, is that conformity is rarely an asset. The people who are most exceptional, the ones that we admire most are not the ones who conform, but people who have different ideas, different viewpoints, different thinking, conformity isn't an asset. Really, it isn't.
Where do you think differently and start bringing that to the fore? That's because that's really who you are. That's really what your strengths are. That's really what your ability is. And the world needs to see that from you.
Don't hide. Seriously. Hiding is one of the least virtuous things that you could possibly do. Get out there. Be great.

SEGMENT 3. I was listening to a podcast interview with Billy Bob Thornton, an actor who's won an Academy Award winner. And he was talking about a time very early in his life, where he had come to New York, and eventually moved to LA. He was trying to figure out how to make it in the world, at times, he would serve hors d'oeuvres at cocktail parties.
He tells a story about one time when he was talking to this guy who just asked him a couple of questions and assumed he was an actor and offered him some advice, and eventually learned that the person he was talking with was Billy Wilder, who is a theater producer. Very well known very successful.
What Wilder told him, which I think really can be helpful to all of us, is "Why stand in line waiting to be picked? Can you write at all? Create your own way, create your own character. Set yourself apart. If there's anything unique about you, bring that to the top. Write your own screenplay and a part in it for you. Don't wait around for people to pick you to play the thug or the whatever."
Now, here's the key part all of us, most of us are waiting around, waiting to be picked. Think of it like from the example of a field of poppies. Most of us operate at the same height as every other poppy. How can you stand out?
Some people are going to try and cut you down to size. That's one of the realities of our culture. Everyone likes homogenous behavior until we don't, until we suddenly discover, "Hey, I like that iPhone thing! I like that iPod thing." Suddenly, there's a leader.
Why can't you try? Why can't you experiment, knowing that the first four times or the first 14 times you might not succeed?
But, then, there's that one time, and you just need one to go out there and really stand out from everyone else.

SEGMENT 4. There's a risk to standing out. There's a risk to doing something different. What do you think the risk is for you to try something that others don't?
"Oh, I might get criticized."
But you're criticizing yourself. You're unhappy. Other people's unhappiness weighs on you and tries to keep you to a certain level, just like them.
Do great things. Try. Experiment. Know that you're going to be criticized. Your wife, husband or partner may suddenly . . . Kids! Oh God, Kids . . . who everyone's going to say, "Don't do it. Don't try."
I know in my life when I transitioned from headhunting to coaching, my wife woke up one day, you know, I've completed coach training. And I was now going to leave headhunting all together. It was like a revelation for her. It was like, these years that I spent in training and in practice, it suddenly hit, I was actually going to do it.
So, she was a little nervous and she wanted me to continue in headhunting. It took her a day to figure out now it's time for me to move on to something else, just as I had planned.
You've got your version of a risk. You've got your version of what your fear is telling you could happen to you. Just remember, the way you have it set up is a lose-lose proposition. You might fail doing what you're doing. And you might feel like a failure if you keep doing what you're doing.
But if you try, number one is you might just actually succeed. And there's a million other options between those two poles that you haven't even considered yet.
But I'm telling you, folks, you've got to get out there and start doing different things because a lifetime is not a long time. I'm telling you, life catches up, and suddenly it's over. It is not a long time. When you look back at it, do you want to be proud of it? Do you want to be happy with it? Do you want to feel as though you made something of it

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for NoBSCoachingAdvice.com. He is the host of “The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast,” and “No BS Job Search Advice.”

Are you interested in my coaching you? Connect with me on LinkedIn and, once we are connected, message me. If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) https://thebiggamehunter.us/magnifi or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

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Energetic people

Energy | The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast


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EP 116 A TEDx talk, a golf tournament, plus a few more things came together into “the stew” that is this week’s episode. ENJOY!

Summary

SEGMENT 1. This weekend I went to a TEDx talk and Asheville, North Carolina, where a friend of mine, Dave Kavner, was the opening presenter, interestingly enough, and he used two metaphors in the course of his speech that I thought were terrific and might be a good way to start the conversation.
He used the one metaphor of batteries and having your batteries charged or depleted in some way, and looking at energy in your life and what we all do, and we never have a fully charged battery, of course, but what gives us more battery life versus less and he used the second metaphor of rocks, sparks and monsters and carrying around a bunch of rocks, drains our batteries, sparks, lift us up and then monsters are the challenges that we all face. What is going to deplete us? What is going to cause us to grow? What's going to give us more battery charge and getting us out of the ugliness that exists in the darkness that causes us to be small.

SEGMENT 2. This morning, I got up and I turned on Sports Center. I like sports. I admit it. I like sports. Now, I'm not a golfer, but there's a moment where they're doing a golf segment. The the golfer that they were featuring at this moment in the tournament was Keith Mitchell. It's the 18th hole. He's tied for third. All he's gotta do is hit par and he goes on to a playoff against the two other players. Instead, he sinks a 10 foot putt, wins the tournament, coming in one under his opponents . . . one stroke better than his opponents.
He said something to the effect of, "This is the moment, as I stood there over the ball, to hit the stroke that I've been waiting for all my life." Now, I don't know if he was waiting for it, or whether he was speaking of monsters that he faced previously with misses at moments like that. Most of us have faced the monsters, haven't we? Most of us have that moment of truth where we know that, ultimately, this is the moment we've been waiting for.
Do you sink that putt? Do you miss? It's okay if you miss because, the reality is, in his particular case, he would have been in a playoff. But there are moments in our lives where we have that magic moment of facing our demons, facing the monsters, and we come up short.
Now, short could be our fear (that's the fear of the monster, of course). Short could be we aren't well prepared and from a talent perspective. Whatever it is, it's important to face the monsters and to do our best so they have the opportunity to sink that putt or close that deal or whatever it is that we're trying to do at just that moment.

SEGMENT 3. Being a professional isn't only about the money. That tends to be the way most people in American society tend to think about it. It's really about actions that you take that earn you the right to earn that money.
So, for example, doctors, they practice medicine every day. Professional athletes practice the sport every day in an effort to get better. You know, when I used the example of Keith Mitchell earlier, the idea that he was out there hitting a golf ball every day for years and years, sometimes with coaching, sometimes without, but he made the choice to dedicate himself every day to his profession, to his craft, missing very few days . . . I'm sure obviously when you're sick, you may take a day off or so, obviously. When your wife has a child, he may miss a day or so.
Ultimately, it's about doing the little things along the way that "require you" because you have the internal reason to do it. That's why I use the term "require you" to go out there and keep trying. Keep trying to get better.
You may have read from one of Malcolm Gladwell's books, the notion of the 10,000 hour rule. 10,000 hours of dedicated effort, under the supervision of someone who really knows allows you to become a master, allows you become a craftsman at what you do.
So often, people go into situations that they're are unfamiliar with. They want a quick fix, an expert to tell them what to do. It doesn't work that way. You have to go out and make your mistakes and, as long as they don't have dire consequences, like with a doctor, you wind up getting better and putting yourself in the position where you can win that tournament.

SEGMENT 4. You can't do everything and be a champion. We make sacrifices. Champions make the choice of what they're going to sacrifice. I don't know what the right decision is for you. But there are things that you love doing that don't serve you. There are choices that you make with outcomes that really are not what you want. They are distractions on the fairway.
Do what makes you love yourself more. Do what keeps the spark lit within you, the flame burning bright. I know there are going to be rocks that you carry and they become boulders, the more thing is that should carry. But you've got to keep your batteries charged in order to be able to face those demons and monsters that live within you.
Really, focus on the things and make you love yourself more. You will love life that much more, achieve that much more and be someone even more lovable.

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Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for NoBSCoachingAdvice.com. He is the host of “The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast,” and “No BS Job Search Advice.”

Are you interested in my coaching you? Connect with me on LinkedIn and, once we are connected, message me. If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) https://thebiggamehunter.us/magnifi or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

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Service. Effort. Fun. Try. | The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast


EP 125 Service, Effort, Fun, Try! Why not? Perform a service for others. Put in a maximum effort. Have some fun! Try one for the next two days!

Summary

This is the No BS Coaching Advice Podcast, Episode 125. I'm your host, Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter, and welcome. I like to spend some time, generally weekly, talking with you about some elements of life, the universe and everything. But I tend to release the shows on Monday (although, last week, my schedule was such I just couldn't do it).

SEGMENT 1. Today's show is one where I'm going to cover a couple of different themes. The first one really starts off with a drive I did on Saturday to spend some time in service. Service is one of those wonderful things where I think, well,I know, for me, it helps me get recalibrated and to get a better perspective on life.
I drove two hours each way to start, then four hours supporting some guys who were helping to put on a workshop for others. I had no role other than to help prep some meals and help serve some meals and be friendly with folks. And that was really it. No work, like I normally do. Nothing intense, whatsoever. When I got back, I felt great and I know when I check in with some of my friends who are running that workshop, they will feel the same way, too.
Find a place where you can serve. It just becomes a great gift that you give yourself all because you give to others.

SEGMENT 2. Seeing the pictures of recent grads is a great reminder of the blessing of effort. One of my wife's nieces graduated with Dr. Veterinarian Medicine degree. Seeing the pictures of everyone celebrate it was wonderful. She put in a lot of effort, years of effort, not just simply in the classroom, but in practice, as well.
I'll simply say, folks, effort has a wonderful reward to it. It's not about the money. It's about the feeling of satisfaction at the time of completion. You don't know how much you've learned until you actually get out there and do it. . .b ut there's also that part that says, "I did it," and how good that was a feeling.
Where can you put in max effort? Where can you, if it can't be max, where can you put it in major effort, sustained over a period of time in order to get to where you want to get to and have that feeling of accomplishment? It has to have a beginning, middle and end. It just can't be one of these things that goes on forever. Just think in terms of where can you put full commitment to and where can you have that moment of knowing that you achieved something important to yourself.

SEGMENT 3. So many people I know, find no difficulty whatsoever working. They put in full effort to their work and they get great results or no results. The hard place for most people I know is with having a little bit.
You see, when we think of job, it is j. o b. Job, it carries a template over it. It's hard. It's difficult, it's aggravating. But fun. If we could bring some fun into our work, some fun into our lives, as well, it doesn't feel quite as morbid, does it?

And for so many folks, they don't know how to do it. They don't know how to laugh at themselves. They don't know how to enjoy things. While they're in the struggle ,I can assure you, those students, they figured out a way. Why can't we, as adults, go back to that time, where we laughed and played and worked and struggled and got through it with Max effort.
I'll simply say, folks, try it. See if you can do it. You may not be good at having some fun while working right away and people may lift the eyebrow, you know that that certain parental look like, "you're bad".
But you know what? Who cares? You're going to get more done. That's the amazing thing about it. The more fun you bring into it, the more you're going to get done. Amazing, isn't it?
SEGMENT 4. What's the risks to you? If you try out one of these three things I've spoken about? What's the risk to you? What's the thing that might go wrong? If you tried at serving others for a weekend, or a day, or an hour, or put in maximum effort or had some fun at work?
What could go wrong? I know most of you are saying absolutely nothing. And you've listened to the show and, maybe, thought to yourself through each of these previous segments, "hey, that sounds pretty easy to do!" And, then, you'll wind up going off and doing nothing. It's not enough to listen and nod your head and agree. You have to do something with these ideas. You have to make some change and try different things, otherwise, you just get more of the same thing.
So g,ive it a shot. Try something different. Pick one of these. Service-- you could serve meals to people less fortunate than you. Max effort-- you could just bust a gut for the next few days at work. Let's say, you listen to the show on Tuesday and, now, Tuesday, Wednesday, you put in max effort and see how that feels to really push to get something done. Try it be of service to others. Have some fun. I know most of you are going to avoid that one! That'svbecause it's hard to have fun. Fun. Fun at work. How is that one possible?
But just pick one thing. Not necessarily the hardest for you. But pick one thing to change over the next two days and notice how you feel. Try something new. You never know what the results are going to bring to you, right?

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Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for NoBSCoachingAdvice.com. He is the host of “The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast,” and “No BS Job Search Advice.”

Are you interested in my coaching you? Connect with me on LinkedIn and, once we are connected, message me. If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) https://thebiggamehunter.us/magnifi or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

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Doing Things Halfway and More | The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast


EP 124. 4 Segments that get you focused on going “all in.”

Summary

I heard a story today from a friend of mine who owns a recruiting firm, I will tell you where it is. He has a client that's hired a bunch of people from him. They are always slow. So they give him a job in another city from where he lives; he finds someone for them. The guy works for a unit of a well known tech firm. I'll leave it at that.
The process goes on for two months. They talk with him four or five times. Seehey were the point of flying him in. It takes two weeks for them to get around to deciding that they're going to call him to schedule. In the meantime, he has told them, "Look, I have an offer, I will need to respond to it by such and such date." The fly in is on that date. Can you believe this? They scheduled the fly in for the day he's supposed to respond. And then, to make matters worse, the offer that he has is with a firm that they have a non-compete with. In other words, procrastination is costing them a person that they'll want to hire and competitors are going to get with whom they have a non-compete.
So, at the end of the day, they blow it. When all is said and done, where can you streamline your process? Because in this market, and it is a good market now, people have choices, particularly exceptional talent. Exceptional talent, even had choices during the recession but, in this market, firms are bidding for people. You can't stall because other people are in there trying to influence. The more you stall, the less excited they are about your opportunity and the more likely it is that they will accept something else.
Now, if you're going to have that arrogant attitude of, "If they are not going to want us . . . ," Well, they want someone who's interested in them. It's like dating. You know, if you don't get a call for two weeks after the first date, you kind of get the idea that they're not interested, right? It's no different in the interviewing. And, if you then go to the, "Well, he should be a grown up about this," like I've heard from so many firms, well, let me let you in on a secret.
If you were on his side of this situation, you wouldn't be happy with the firm either. So, I'm just telling you pick up the pace on your interviews. Push your hiring managers to take action. I'm not saying instantly hire. I'm talking about evaluating and assessing and bringing things to a conclusion, Yay or Nay, instead of stalling things for three months like in this guy's case, from time of first submission, the first interview to four interviews, they decide to fly him in, to scheduling the actual thing, to discovering he has an offer, he's accepting to go to work for a competitor.

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for NoBSCoachingAdvice.com. He is the host of “The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast,” and “No BS Job Search Advice.”

Are you interested in my coaching you? Connect with me on LinkedIn and, once we are connected, message me. If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) https://thebiggamehunter.us/magnifi or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

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Optimism, Worry & The House of Secrets | The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast


Worry is the muscle we exercise most.

Summary

This is The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast, Episode 123. I'm your host Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter and Welcome to Monday! What a Game of Thrones building up to the big battle? And Billions. It seems like there's a battle on every week. But I digress. That isn't the purpose of the show, which is to talk with you about some element of life, the universe and everything.
And let me just start by saying you can listen to the show on anchor.fm. You can listen to it in Apple podcast. You can listen on YouTube, Spotify, wherever you listen to podcasts, this show is out and about.

SEGMENT 1. And let me just start by talking with you about optimism because I think a lot of us, myself included, tend to fixate on problems. In fixating on problems, I know I develop pessimism, What about you?
Do you start feeling as though things are going to, I don't wanna say crashing on you but there's always some problem that you're dealing with. That has been true for me for so many years. When I worked in recruiting, there was always something going on, that I needed to worry about. And, the truth is, there's really very little that I do now. That's not because I coach but because that's the nature of life, and I could worry about things. But most of the time, the things I worry about are really pretty unimportant.
My life isn't going to be any worse or actually any better for having worried about them. I can better serve by focusing on solutions than worrying about potential problems. How about you? Is that what happens with you? You focus on your worry and not on the solutions.
Optimism is like a muscle that needs exercise. And if we can practice being optimistic, then we can handle these situations that we face and, more often than not, we feel better all the way through by handling these problems, because we're not worried about failure, because that's really what happens when we worry. We're focused on solutions. And the fact that throughout most of our lives, I'm pretty good at coming up with solutions to our problems, right? So what are you worried about? What are you feeling pessimistic about? The data contradicts your mind here. Stop paying attention to your mind. All it's doing is getting you to worry about things that you'll be able to figure out.

SEGMENT 2. When I was a boy, I grew up in what I have now nicknamed, "The House of Secrets." My parents shared nothing with my brother and I (Or at least with me. I don't know about my brother) But clearly, I knew nothing of the difficulties that they were experiencing, the headaches that they had with their family, all the other stuff.
Understand these were people who met during World War II. They fled Nazis, they met in Siberia. This was "The House Of Secrets." Nothing was ever shared with me until my father's death bed and then I heard the story of how they met, how they fled, and all the other sorts of stuff. But it didn't teach me the stuff. I shouldn't say, "the stuff" but they didn't really spend time teaching me lessons about how to handle things. I've kind of learned that on my own and in growing up in this House of Secrets, I learned to contain a lot of things, myself, rather than opening up about them.
Now, some of you think that's an okay thing and it may be for you by just found the pressure and the burdens at times to be so overwhelming as to be painful. I've learned over the course of time when I open up and talk things through with people I know love, trust, respect and care about, that's what they feel for me. They get closer to me. They trust me more. And the result winds up being I feel better. And, at times, I get input. At times I just need to be heard and in opening up to us a quote that I heard from Robin Roberts from ABC, "by making my mess, my message, I'm able to effect the change within me and within others, that proves very helpful."
You have people close to you could be a wife, husband, partner, parent who you can talk with and share your lessons with. Your kids if if you have them, because they know we make mistakes. Lord knows, they judge us. Our children judge us from what they think our mistakes are, even if we haven't made them so let's at least acknowledge that we make them. Use them as teaching moments, and, best of all, feel better about ourselves and our lives. And that's that lesson, making your mess your message.

SEGMENT 3. "If you hear people from my past speak of me, keep in mind they're speaking of a person they don't know anymore." Great little meme I saw recently that reminds me of a relationship with a number of my friends who I've known for a long time, who, when I speak with them, who I, when I meet with them, I start off the conversation by asking, "how old are you now?" And I do that because I sometimes forget that a lot of time has passed from the time that I really knew them.
There is one friend. Married. Daughter, great man. I knew him when he was 30 and now is 50. He is a different man that I knew. I know that's true of many and how they see me even though I'm relatively public. I'll just simply say that for many folks, we live with individuals who've been frozen in time, that bear no resemblance to who they are today. Come on, folks. Give them a break. They deserve it just like you do.

SEGMENT 4. "All the world's a stage and all the men (and women) merely players, they have their exits and their entrances. And one man or woman in his time plays many parts."
How about the part of being the leading man or leading lady? Have you tried playing that part or have you barely been satisfied? Or have you really focused your efforts on being a player, a performer on the stage with no special qualities to you?
Come on, folks. Eventually life runs out. Don't you want to know what it's like to be a star? Come on. Seriously, Get out front. Show people what you've got! Stop playing small. Dream big. Dream big and do the things that will help you get there and often it's in the details. But, Heck, most of the time, most of us spend our time being bit players.
Let's get out in front and become stars. Leading men. Leading ladies. Being exceptional.

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for NoBSCoachingAdvice.com. He is the host of “The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast,” and “No BS Job Search Advice.”

Are you interested in my coaching you? Connect with me on LinkedIn and, once we are connected, message me. If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) https://thebiggamehunter.us/magnifi or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

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Leadership | The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast


EP 121 Leadership comes in all shapes, sizes, genders, races, ages, sexual orientations . . . yadda, yadda, yadda Here are a few thoughts about leadership . . . your leadership.

Summary

This is The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast, Episode 121. I'm your host Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter and welcome to another episode. And I like to spend some time weekly talking with you about some element of Life, the Universe, and Everything. And I thought today's show might deal with a theme around leadership, but
I'll see how it evolves.

SEGMENT 1 I'll just simply say, we have this goofy notion that leaders have to comply with a specific model or form. Yet, there are so many individuals that are different than those models. So, what makes a leader? The first thing is, of course, people who follow them and when people follow a leader, they don't even have to be successful leaders. There's just something about that woman or man, that make someone actually want to follow the purpose or the mission of what they have.
There's something that connects with them at a deeper level, that may or may not be right so, that the purpose is going to be successful is almost irrelevant. There's a personality that they carry, not necessarily "can do," not necessarily command and control, and certainly not necessarily a much softer, gentler way.
Leadership takes many, many different forms. And if you're looking for me to have a checklist, I don't have it. No one has a checklist, because it really depends on the conditions that you're operating in as to whether or not your leadership will really be right.

SEGMENT 2 So I was watching a TV show recently, I don't remember which one it was, but I put down a note. I want to use this quote. There was some sort of self- congratulatory moment on the show where someone lifts up a glass and says, "Here's to all or nothing gambits, the only way to live."
Really? Really? One of the things leaders do is mitigate risk. Does it really makes sense to push all your chips in on your business, on your life, and risk everything and put everyone else at risk? It's one thing if you do it for yourself; it's another thing if you do it for other people, because often, whether it's in business, in a corporation, in the military, in your family, risking everything can lead to fatalities. Is that really what you want? All or nothing gambits usually cause other people to die . . . and sometimes you.
Leaders want to live for another day, and they want their followers there with them. Sometimes you gotta know when to fold them and hold them and know when to run, yada, yada, yada. All or nothing gambits? Bull.

SEGMENT 3 There are leaders who are tyrants, who try to act dictatorially. Yet, at the same time, who wants to follow them? They are being followed by force. You know, when I think of great leaders in modern times, I don't want to say they're transparent, because they don't share everything with everyone. But, they do know when to open up and that opening up can also be to talk about where they had failures, where they messed up, where they made the wrong choices.
There's an honest state that our leaders have in modern times, very different than the tyrants, and the dictators of the past, the ones who ruled by fear. Don't get me wrong, there are people who lead nations who lead through fear. Is that really the way you want to lead? If so, you're going to run a certain type of organization and, in modern times, it's a lot harder to enroll people in that kind of leadership. As a matter of fact, in Western culture, it's next to impossible.

SEGMENT 4 One measure of a leader is who's following he or she. When you look at the people who are following you, do they reflect your best or are they mediocre? Are they people who you'd be proud of or are they people that you're settling for?
If they are folks who fall into that latter category, you've got to step up your game and attract more people to you of a higher caliber. Otherwise, you're going to be seen as a mediocrity because your followers are mediocre.
Step it up folks. If you want to lead you've got to practice. It's really that simple. You may not get it right the first time or the fifth time, but if it's not working right now, if you're attracting followers that are not ambitious, who really don't reflect you at your best, you gotta do it differently. I'm just telling you that he got to do it differently.
So that's today's show. I hope you enjoyed it. And if you did, subscribe, on Apple podcasts, Spotify, Google Play, wherever you listen to the show,
just subscribe so you get downloads whenever I release a new episode. Each show is going to be bite size morsels of advice, just like today's. I hope you enjoyed it. And I do hope you subscribe.
If you do choose to subscribe, I hope you decide to support the show. There's a link that will take you to anchor.fm where you can make a pledge in support of the show. I'd greatly appreciate it.
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I'll be back soon with more. And in the meantime, I hope you have a great day. Take care

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for NoBSCoachingAdvice.com. He is the host of “The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast,” and “No BS Job Search Advice.”

Are you interested in my coaching you? Connect with me on LinkedIn and, once we are connected, message me. If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) https://thebiggamehunter.us/magnifi or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

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Are You Dancing? | The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast


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An interview Tim Ferriss did with comedian Bill Burr is the basis for today’s show. Enjoy!

Summary

I do this show regularly in an effort to instigate some thinking on your part, having you connect with a thought in some way, shape or form is useful?
I was listening to an interview that Tim Ferriss did on his show with a comedian by the name of Bill Burr. Burr spoke about something that happened when he was young, where he was still working his way up the ranks. He was dating someone, making them dinner, and in the middle of the evening, paused for a second and called in to see if he had an opportunity to go on stage at a comedy club. If he gets a, "yes," he tells the woman, "Okay, I'll be back, probably in about an hour and a half. But hang in there. I'll be back. We'll finish dinner and have a lovely time."
So, the woman asks him, "so how much do they pay?"
"Eight bucks." He goes off and he kills it and has a great performance. Just knocks it out and he comes back to his apartment, and he is in such a great mood. He is dancing, he is flying. She pauses for a second and says, "You know, Bill, I wish I had a job where I could make 8 bucks and be dancing like you are."
Folks, I'll asked you the question. If you're not dancing, why are you doing it? Why are you putting up with it?
Life is way too short. As I've said on the show before, a lifetime is not a long time. We like to think of ourselves as being immortal but life has a way of showing us how foolish we are.
Folks, you should be dancing through your life in such joy and delight and if you aren't, maybe it's time to sit down and figure out what to do differently. If you think a coach could help you, I'd love to coach you. Email me at JeffAltman@TheBigGameHunter.us and, in the subject line, put the word "coaching." Describe the situation to me. We'll schedule a time to speak. But I simply say, think like Bill Burr. Are you dancing?

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for NoBSCoachingAdvice.com. He is the host of “The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast,” and “No BS Job Search Advice.”

Are you interested in my coaching you? Connect with me on LinkedIn and, once we are connected, message me. If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) https://thebiggamehunter.us/magnifi or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

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Taking Things for Granted | The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast


EP 119 We sat and talked for a while before asking the circle, “What are you taking for granted that you really appreciate?”

Summary

Taking Things for Granted
This is episode 119 of the No BS Coaching Advice Podcast. I'm your host Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter and welcome. I like this spend some time weekly talking with you about life, the universe and everything. Today's show starts off with a reflection from yesterday where I got together with a number of friends for breakfast and we sat around in someone's home.
After, I'd say, about a half hour of conversation, I asked everyone, "So, there's a lot of things that we appreciate but we take them for granted. We don't take the time to really appreciate them. We take them for granted. What are you taking for granted that's important to you and your life. Just take a moment to [00:01:00] acknowledge it and just feel the feeling that goes with that."
I think you'll find that absolutely wonderful.
SEGMENT 2. One of the men who was there yesterday talked about Walking the Camino in Spain. It was interesting because he was a Jewish man who was going to be walking a trail associated with non-Jews and it brought the thoughts of my mind about pilgrims and pilgrimage. As a pilgrim, if we thought of our day as being a pilgrimage to work and a pilgrimage to her home . Now. I know that's not "the holy aspect." But what is Holy can exist within us and it becomes something that we take for granted way too often. That we carry that spirit and flame within us that is so meaningful and important. How can we bring that spirit of the [00:02:00] pilgrim in deference to the greater good into our work life, into our homes and into everything that we engage with.
It doesn't mean that it's not hard because there are many things that exist in the world of work and in the world of home that are hard, at are difficult and are going to challenge us,just as they are for someone who's going to walk several hundred miles on that trail. But how do you bring that spirit into the endeavor and face the challenge while maintaining that quality?
SEGMENT 3. It was grounds beat myself up, punish myself, self-flagellation. . . The whole ball of wax and, you know, I started to realize that I treated my friends and even strangers far better than I treated myself.
Part of being a pilgrim part of treating my [00:03:00] life being somewhat reverent than .Her. Weight is to treat myself with the same kindness as I treat strangers. Could you do that? Could you try and practice if you make a mistake instead of going damn or some other expletive? And criticize yourself relentlessly. Could you just ask yourself the question?
Okay what that I miscalculate here and what might I have done differently. What can I learn from this that I can take into the next situation knowing that no two are alike and that I just want to do better and learn? Could you try that next time instead?
People rush to judgment. I know I do and I fight now hard to guard against it because my judgments are often very harsh. I have opinions about everything, don't you? Really don't you? Someone says something online, you want to rip them a new orifice, shall we say. How does that really work for you?
Part of practicing a little bit more kindness and a little bit more patience is not just simply patience with yourself, but patience and kindness with others.
Can you ask a question instead of immediately making a judgment? Can you avoid the critical snarky comments? Can you avoid being snide and just say, “I'm a little confused here,” and go from there? It is hard because we are gripped in a culture now wants our opinions, that demands it because it's part of bringing traffic back to their websites.
I don't care whether it's Twitter or Facebook every time you engage in arguments, they make more money. You waste more time. They make more money. How's that working for you, folks? Is that really what you want to be doing again? Appreciate. Take a minute and value the things that you take for granted instead of arguing and fighting. Look for the commonality, rather than the difference rather than punishing someone else through negativity because that's where you practice doing it to yourself is with others. Rather than doing that, just ask a question and start loving your life that much more.

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for NoBSCoachingAdvice.com. He is the host of “The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast,” and “No BS Job Search Advice.”

Are you interested in my coaching you? Connect with me on LinkedIn and, once we are connected, message me. If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) https://thebiggamehunter.us/magnifi or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

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Hitting a Plateau | The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast


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Is quitting the right thing to do when you hit a plateau? Are you really hitting “the wall?” On today’s show, I explain what is really going on.

Summary

I thought I would talk with you about plateaus because plateaus are often the breakpoint for many people in their desire to improve themselves.It's like, you get some easy gains. You get some easy successes right away . . . and then you hit what people describe as the wall which, in point of fact, is a temporary plateau, while you consolidate some of the gains that you've achieved during that time.That idea of consolidating gains. . .  I remember learning about in social work school where to use the example of working out, you get to a point where you feel like you've plateaued. You made progress but now it feels like you've got to push that much harder to to move forward and get ahead. In fact, what's happening is your body is catching up with you. Your body is basically saying, at a cellular level, "you know, let's take a brief rest here, right where we are. And then once I feel able, I'm going to be able to push through."Now, emotionally in terms of how you might play this out in non-gym terms., you know, often when we get into areas of improvement, we hit plateaus, and don't really progress very far after that. Then, we give up. It's a mistake to give up. It's a mistake not to just hold with the effort and enjoying what you're doing and where you are right now.I know when I was working with a trainer, there were times that she was pushing me and I was saying "Thank you. Thank you. Thank you." I couldn't get any further and I said, "Let's hold at this spot and keep working me at this level and, every once in a while, let's check if I can go further."When she pushed me too hard, I'd get injured. She would listen at times but, I'll simply say, that for most of us, when we get to a plateau, it is our mind,, our abilities catching up with where we've achieved up until that point.Be patient  with yourself. Enjoy the process. You don't have to be perfect right away. You don't need to get a 10 from the gymnast judge who is grading your performance. You know, that gymnast judge that lives between your ears that always grades you for everything that you do.Just enjoy the ride. Everything will catch up with you later on.

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for NoBSCoachingAdvice.com. He is the host of “The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast,” and “No BS Job Search Advice.”

Are you interested in my coaching you? Connect with me on LinkedIn and, once we are connected, message me. If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) https://thebiggamehunter.us/magnifi or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

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