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EP 129. We can’t be lucky sitting at home or at our desk. We make our luck.

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SEGMENT 1. It’s a gorgeous day where I am. I hope the same is true of you too. I thought I would do a show today about good fortune, luck, karma, however you want to think of it and start off by saying, if you think you’re going to get lucky sitting in the house or sitting in your office, if you think opportunity is going to knock, <knock. knock. knock> There was opportunity knocking . . . just by staying where you are. It’s highly unlikely.

Most of the time, we make our luck, most the time we’re prepared for it, but if no one knows how good we are, how effective we are, how nice we are, how do we meet someone? How do we get that job that we’re interested in? You really can’t because no one knows about it, and no one’s in the position to see it.

Making your luck. There’s so many instances of people who make their luck by just meeting someone. I know that happened to me when I met my wife, you know, just being in the position where I did something a little bit different . . .and so did she coincidentally. And we met and over the course of a few years, fell in love. I’ll just say you can’t be lucky sitting at home doing nothing. You gotta get out there and start talking to folks.

SEGMENT 2. The New York Yankees are an usual team this year. If you look at their lineup up, boy, if they’ve been hit hard. The ace to their starting pitching staff, Luis Severino? Out all season, not sure when he’s going to be back. Their starting right fielder, Judge? Out for a good part of the season. They’re starting left fielder, Stanton? out for most of the season so far.  I think he played a week and that’s been it. Their starting shortstop out so far the entire season. Maybe he shouldn’t be back in a week or two, after having been out for months.

Now, this isn’t about them being out of the lineup. It’s about the other players who had the good fortune to have these opportunities. You see, luck is a part of things. You don’t get to get on the field if you’re “lucky.” You have to be in the right situation and be ready for it.

Gio Urshela. He’s been playing third base because the Yankee third baseman has been out almost the entire season. Yeah, he was a poor hitter for most of his career, good fielder, good utility man as they say in baseball but he’s given this opportunity. He’s hitting .340. This is unbelievable and he’s been clutch.

The guy who was supposed to be the utility player, he’s playing second base. Now he’s doing great. He’s hitting .300. Their shortstop, the guy who’s subbing for the starting shortstop, he’s really the second baseman. Also doing great. You can through the team and they are in first place by, I believe, it’s two games at this point.

And here’s the reality, too. We don’t know what’s going to happen but up until this point, these folks have had the good fortune to be ready and to perform and be lucky enough to be in this system when a crisis hit the be on the Yankees when they were needed. A lot of people have opportunities, and then complain when they don’t perform. You have to be ready. It isn’t just the luck, that’s going to get you to where you want to go.

SEGMENT 3. Last week, I asked you, who do you want to be? Not, what do you want to be when you grow up? Who do you want to be as a person? What kind of woman or man do you want to be?

As you start to approach the end of your life, what would you have wanted to accomplish? Where would you have second guesses if tomorrow is the last day of your life.

I’ll say very simply, what it really takes is taking steps to move the needle forward consistently. People don’t become great in one fell swoop. It’s a lifetime effort and achievement that gets them there. Focusing on where you want to get to. I’m going to repeat that one, focusing on where you want to get to, and learning how to get there because you may not have all the answers.

You can talk to people, you can take classes. You can talk to more people. You can put yourself into situations and opportunities where your life can be changed.

I was listening to a podcast interview with former Secretary of State Dr. Condoleezza Rice, who spoke about her opportunity, her first step, and it came off of . . .  I can’t call it a failure but a realization. She wanted to be a pianist originally, and went to a school where she discovered all these prodigies existed. People who could sight read and play great music that she took a year to learn. She had the realization that maybe she was not as talented as she thought.

She fell in love with foreign policy. I’ll spare you that story and attended a class or a lecture that was given by National Security Advisor Brent Scowcroft. Scowcroft was asked a question by her that, in retrospect, she realizes she probably shouldn’t have been asking. But he came over to her afterwards and invited her to participate with a study group, The Aspen Group, I believe it was called. That question, that moment of impertinence helped change her life.

I’m not suggesting being impertinent with people. Certainly not. But putting yourself in the situations more often where you can distinguish yourself, get noticed, get your questions answered, be in contact with people, not hiding behind a computer, thinking you can email someone . . .  sometimes you just gotta get out of the house or get away from your desk, and talk to others.

“Oh, I can get away from my desk, I have important work to do.”

Is it really that important? Is most of it really the same repetitive things you do most of the time? Probably, probably. Ask yourself the honest question. Are you happy with the way your life is going and what can you do to change it? Not a big change, small incremental steps that move things forward to help you get to where you want to be?

SEGMENT 4. So many people think they have to figure out how to do everything on their own, or never ask for help or support. Why is that?

Well, there are a lot of reasons but, ultimately, it starts off with, when we’re young, we’re encouraged to do things on our own. We get into school and if you cooperate with another student at school, it’s cheating. We’re told, “never, ever be a cheater.”

When we become an adult, we carry that idea forward and the problem is it’s so much easier if you collaborate and cooperate with others, you’re much more effective and you get more things done faster. As you’re thinking about making your luck and creating yourself in the opportunities and in ways that, right now, are just a dream for you, look for support. Look for help.

It can come from any number of places, including coaching, but I’m not here to sell you on that. I’ll just simply say, don’t try to figure things out by yourself. If you could have done that before, you would have already done it. Get some support.

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SEGMENT 1. It's a gorgeous day where I am. I hope the same is true of you too. I thought I would do a show today about good fortune, luck, karma, however you want to think of it and start off by saying, if you think you're going to get lucky sitting in the house or sitting in your office, if you think opportunity is going to knock, There was opportunity knocking . . . just by staying where you are. It's highly unlikely.

Most of the time, we make our luck, most the time we're prepared for it, but if no one knows how good we are, how effective we are, how nice we are, how do we meet someone? How do we get that job that we're interested in? You really can't because no one knows about it, and no one's in the position to see it.

Making your luck. There's so many instances of people who make their luck by just meeting someone. I know that happened to me when I met my wife, you know, just being in the position where I did something a little bit different . . .and so did she coincidentally. And we met and over the course of a few years, fell in love. I'll just say you can't be lucky sitting at home doing nothing. You gotta get out there and start talking to folks.

SEGMENT 2. The New York Yankees are an usual team this year. If you look at their lineup up, boy, if they've been hit hard. The ace to their starting pitching staff, Luis Severino? Out all season, not sure when he's going to be back. Their starting right fielder, Judge? Out for a good part of the season. They're starting left fielder, Stanton? out for most of the season so far. I think he played a week and that's been it. Their starting shortstop out so far the entire season. Maybe he shouldn't be back in a week or two, after having been out for months.

Now, this isn't about them being out of the lineup. It's about the other players who had the good fortune to have these opportunities. You see, luck is a part of things. You don't get to get on the field if you're "lucky." You have to be in the right situation and be ready for it.

Gio Urshela. He's been playing third base because the Yankee third baseman has been out almost the entire season. Yeah, he was a poor hitter for most of his career, good fielder, good utility man as they say in baseball but he's given this opportunity. He's hitting .340. This is unbelievable and he's been clutch.

The guy who was supposed to be the utility player, he's playing second base. Now he's doing great. He's hitting .300. Their shortstop, the guy who's subbing for the starting shortstop, he's really the second baseman. Also doing great. You can through the team and they are in first place by, I believe, it's two games at this point.

And here's the reality, too. We don't know what's going to happen but up until this point, these folks have had the good fortune to be ready and to perform and be lucky enough to be in this system when a crisis hit the be on the Yankees when they were needed. A lot of people have opportunities, and then complain when they don't perform. You have to be ready. It isn't just the luck, that's going to get you to where you want to go.

SEGMENT 3. Last week, I asked you, who do you want to be? Not, what do you want to be when you grow up? Who do you want to be as a person? What kind of woman or man do you want to be?

As you start to approach the end of your life, what would you have wanted to accomplish? Where would you have second guesses if tomorrow is the last day of your life.

I'll say very simply, what it really takes is taking steps to move the needle forward consistently. People don't become great in one fell swoop. It's a lifetime effort and achievement that gets them there. Focusing on where you want to get to. I'm going to repeat that one, focusing on where you want to get to, and learning how to get there because you may not have all the answers.

You can talk to people, you can take classes. You can talk to more people. You can put yourself into situations and opportunities where your life can be changed.

I was listening to a podcast interview with former Secretary of State Dr. Condoleezza Rice, who spoke about her opportunity, her first step, and it came off of . . . I can't call it a failure but a realization. She wanted to be a pianist originally, and went to a school where she discovered all these prodigies existed. People who could sight read and play great music that she took a year to learn. She had the realization that maybe she was not as talented as she thought.

She fell in love with foreign policy. I'll spare you that story and attended a class or a lecture that was given by National Security Advisor Brent Scowcroft. Scowcroft was asked a question by her that, in retrospect, she realizes she probably shouldn't have been asking. But he came over to her afterwards and invited her to participate with a study group, The Aspen Group, I believe it was called. That question, that moment of impertinence helped change her life.

I'm not suggesting being impertinent with people. Certainly not. But putting yourself in the situations more often where you can distinguish yourself, get noticed, get your questions answered, be in contact with people, not hiding behind a computer, thinking you can email someone . . . sometimes you just gotta get out of the house or get away from your desk, and talk to others.

"Oh, I can get away from my desk, I have important work to do."

Is it really that important? Is most of it really the same repetitive things you do most of the time? Probably, probably. Ask yourself the honest question. Are you happy with the way your life is going and what can you do to change it? Not a big change, small incremental steps that move things forward to help you get to where you want to be?

SEGMENT 4. So many people think they have to figure out how to do everything on their own, or never ask for help or support. Why is that?

Well, there are a lot of reasons but, ultimately, it starts off with, when we're young, we're encouraged to do things on our own. We get into school and if you cooperate with another student at school, it's cheating. We're told, "never, ever be a cheater."

When we become an adult, we carry that idea forward and the problem is it's so much easier if you collaborate and cooperate with others, you're much more effective and you get more things done faster. As you're thinking about making your luck and creating yourself in the opportunities and in ways that, right now, are just a dream for you, look for support. Look for help.

It can come from any number of places, including coaching, but I'm not here to sell you on that. I'll just simply say, don't try to figure things out by yourself. If you could have done that before, you would have already done it. Get some support.

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