Too often, managers complain about their subordinates asking them questions all the time, blaming them for the problem. The subordinate isn’t the problem. It’s you!

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I'm Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter. I'm a coach who helps people professionally in a variety of different ways-- managing and leading, job search, hiring more effectively, career development . . . there are lots of ways that I help people.

When managers complain about staff, one of the common complaints that they have is "I've got a person who keeps coming to me forever, and they expect me to answer the questions. And, to me, one of the issues is we haven't trained them to do anything differently.

For example, when a baby is very young and starts to cry, the parent runs in and tries to help. And, from the standpoint of raising a baby, there are times where the parent runs in and changes a diaper; there times the baby needs feeding, it all makes sense. But there comes a point where the parent has to stop responding instantly and help the child, because it's no longer a baby, grow and do more things on its own right.

As a manager, you have to ask your people more questions so that they can sort things. You see, for managers, sometimes impatience is the problem and instead of saying to the subordinate, "well, what would you do," or "how would you approach this," or asking other questions designed to flush up the conversation, like, "Oh, you don't have any ideas? Come back to me when you do," and making them do some of the work and then respond to you and then engaging them in a process, you take the easy way. The easy way is you answer the question.

Start asking them to do more independent thinking. Stop telling them the answer instantly, so they can sort things out on their own. And start by getting 50% there and help them evaluate the alternatives and help them see how you would evaluate them, but not by giving them the answer, because that gives them lazy thinking.

You see, they're outsourcing their thinking to you, expecting you to do it for them and, thus, like the baby, you have to train the baby. Well, they're your baby. And once you help them to start thinking on their own, they have more successes, and they realize they could do it more, and you'll get them off your back.

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No BS Management Advice | Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
No BS Management Advice | Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

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