Recovering from disappointment and failure is sooooooo important.

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Hi, I'm Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter and I want to talk with you today about recovering from disappointment. Now, if you're going to try and be successful, you're going to experience disappointment. It's just the way of life, right? You do 20 things good, one thing doesn't work out. You feel crushed and you go into a shell, and you go, "Oh, woe is me," or your version of that, maybe, is a pint of ice cream like I do, and you paralyze yourself.

Now, I'm just going to simply say that, you know, for every effort at success, there seems to be a failure that occurs, and some are more profound than others. In interviewing, this happens all the time. Or in job search, it happens all the time. You send out a resume response. You go on an interview.

Well, you know, you can sit in your in your man or woman cave, and lick your wounds for a while. Or you can do what I encourage people to do all the time-- you start working that much harder and smarter. Learn what you can. What could you have done better, which, particularly for an interview, is one of the most profound things that you can learn. Even if you think you crushed it, you can always get back to the employer and say, "Look, I understand you chose someone else; I'm fine with that. What was the difference between them and me, that caused you to offer them and I promise you, I'm not going to try and get into a debate. I just want to take this information and apply it for future opportunities." Perfect. Some firms will respond to some won't. Even as nice as you may be, they're not all going to respond.

So your job is to recover and recover fast and get out there quickly. Learning lessons from the disappointment of failure. And moving on to the next step. In recruiting, when things go badly, when things go, well, one of the things I used to train my staff to do is go, "NEXT!" Because no matter what it is, you kind of move on to the next thing, good or bad. It's always move on to the next thing and next situation quickly because a delay can be very costly for you. Because, particularly in job search, particularly in my old field, if you don't respond quickly to things other people get in, they're advantaged over you. It's hard to recover. You don't send out a resume in a timely way, they close the doors. You miss that opportunity.

Get to work on getting back to work. And if you disappointed, learn from it fast. Move on to the next thing.


Jeff Altman, The Big Game HunterJeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1500 episodes and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice.” He is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council. “No BS JobSearch Advice Radio” was recently named a Top 10 podcast for job search. was also recently named a Top 10 YouTube channel for job search.

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