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EP 2035 Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter he answers a viewer’s question about what she should do while working in a bad environment.

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I received a letter today from someone who sounded very down. It's also by thanking me for doing videos that she's fine, so very helpful. She continues on to comment that I said that when you look for a job, a person needs to know what you are looking for in a company. Then, she talks about her current circumstances that she finds very frustrating. It is an office where in order to get anything done. You have to move large boxes and she is afraid of hurting her back. There is. Also, an office environment that feels very clicky to her. She's being asked to contribute to the Christmas present for her boss. But this is a guy who gave a present to someone in her cubicle on their birthday, but not her. She is feeling burned out at this point. Clearly, she is looking for advice from me. "I'm trying to hold out but it is difficult. I need encouragement. I need some positive words of support. "

Here's what I told her – – the 1st order of business was thanking her for trusting me. Sometimes people find it difficult to know what they are looking for. Thus, it is sometimes easier to know what you are NOT looking for. Then flip it over to the other side and then explore some of the places between the 2 extremes.

For example, you know what you don't like about your current employer. Now bear the exact opposite (a place where people respect you and like you where you are part of the in group or there are no in groups. A place that is neat that is well organized where you are not someone who is being taken advantage of. Where you you are treated in a considerate way by your boss. I can go on and on with other attributes, but it would start off with that. Understand what you don't want to do and then explore the other side.

Then, in terms of encouragement,(1) . Sometimes you have to let the past be the past and start moving toward the future.(2) you contributed to these circumstances. I know this is sometimes hard for people to understand, but it's possible that you cause conditions that caused management and your coworkers to isolate you, not let you win or, secondly, in some way cause folks to not want to bring you into the clique. She has a part in why she is isolated.

(3) before speaking to anyone, focus away from the past and start working toward the future, which is elsewhere.

When all is said and done, you can beat yourself up and get depressed and worried about what your past is. However, what is far more valuable, what is far more helpful is to remember that you can go somewhere else where you will be treated differently. That's ultimately when everyone needs to do.


Jeff Altman, The Big Game HunterJeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked as a recruiter for what seems like one hundred years. His work involves career coaching, all as well as executive job search coaching, job coaching, and interview coaching. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1900 episodes, and is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council.

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