This is not a video where emote, express negative thoughts or the like.

It’s about a progression of exercises to engage in that will help you move ahead professionally or personally.

Read Full Transcript

Hi, I'm Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter. I'm a coach who helps people perform at a high level. Usually I'm brought in to help with job search, hiring, managing and leading, being more effective in the workplace, in general. And this last thing is something I help people with in the workplace but it also applies in life, as well.

So I'll call this "An Exercise in Vulnerability." So, the question is, "why did you decide to watch this video? What's up for you that prompted you to click through to a video that's an exercise in vulnerability? Were you're looking for a performance from me? Did you want me to emote? What were you looking for from yourself?

If that was the case, "what was the problem that prompted you to come here to look at this video? What was the challenge that you're facing?" From there, I'm going to invite you to consider this might be a point where you pause and just . . . you don't have to pause. You can just continue on and go.

What are some of the things you find yourself avoiding in life? What are you ducking from that's keeping you from having the life that you really want?

And then from there, pick one, one, and then ask yourself the question: Why do you want to avoid this? What's too difficult for you about this?

"I could do this in a heartbeat!"

"Why haven't you done it yet? What's at risk for you to take this on?"

Notice how you really have this set up in a way that no matter what you do, you can't win.

So, for example, what's the risk for you to do this? "Well, I might have a conflict with my boss. And what's the risk if that happens?"

"Well, I might wind up being on the outs with he or she?"

"And what's the risk if you stay the same way?"

"I'm gonna be kind of miserable is really what it comes down to it."

You may say nothing but, fundamentally, if you raise this as a subject, you've got a problem here. It's a problem that's driving a wedge between you and your boss and a wedge between you and yourself.

So, recognize the dynamic that exists here. The real question comes down to, we're only avoiding things, if we're afraid. How will it make us feel? Or, if we fear the outcome that we might care if we're doing this.

So, what do you? What's the emotion you're trying to avoid? How does it make you feel? And, once you have that, what would change if you believed you could handle feeling this way or get the result that you want? Are you willing to feel this enough in order to get what it is that you want? Are you willing to do what's necessary to change this dynamic, get the outcome and move off the pot, if you know that expression? Why do you want to do this or why aren't you willing to do this?

Notice if your behavior or your thinking is a little bit of "stinkin' thinkin'", you know, it's a dynamic that's going to have you tolerate misery for a long time.

Lastly, choose one thing to work on this week regardless of the results. Don't worry about the outcome. You don't have to force it. But the idea is just do it. Just do it. And maybe share with your wife, husband or partner so that this way you get some support.

I think my classic example of this is when people are afraid of filing their taxes, and they're just afraid what they're going to find so they share it and this takes some of the trauma out of it by talking with someone else about it and getting some support and getting it done.

If you don't know how to do something, ask for help. And if you need help, coaching, being coached through this process, reach out to me through my website. NoBSCoachingAdvice.com. I'd love to schedule time with you and be of help to you.

You can also look at my other material at TheBigGameHunter.us. NoBS is everything other than job search related. Thus, it has fewer posts than TheBigGameHunter.us which has several thousand. Love to help you. Schedule time for a free discovery call or dive into coaching. I'm sure I can help you move forward.

Have a great day and take care

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for NoBSCoachingAdvice.com. He is the host of “The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast,” and “No BS Job Search Advice.”

Are you interested in my coaching you? Connect with me on LinkedIn and, once we are connected, message me. If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) https://thebiggamehunter.us/magnifi or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

Subscribe to the “The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast.”

If you have questions for me, call me through the Magnifi app for iOS (video) https://thebiggamehunter.us/magnifi or PrestoExperts.com (phone)

Connect with Me on LinkedIn

For more No BS Coaching Advice, visit my website. www.NoBSCoachingAdvice.com

Join Career Angles on Facebook and receive support, ideas and advice in your current career and job.

About the author

Leave a Comment, Thought, Opinion. Speak like you're speaking with someone you love.

%d bloggers like this: