“Trouble creates a capacity to handle it . . . Needed as a friend, for you’ll see a lot of it and had better be on speaking terms with it.”
~Oliver Wendell Holmes
I don’t think I was more than eight years old when I was robbed by two older boys while out with a friend. I was proudly showing off my new watch to him when they came over and asked to see it. I held it up for him proudly and he said, “I can’t see it. Take it off and show me.” I’m sure you can figure out what happened next. We couldn’t find them after they ran off, probably hiding behind cars to avoid us.
Trouble appears in many different forms.
There are a lot more that are even more subtle.
The thing I want to focus on here is that trouble often involves a mental component. An inconvenience is something that you don’t want to do. A bother is a disturbance. Problems are often a puzzle that needs to be figured out. Difficulties? Who decided that they were difficulties? How they become a difficulty?
All these things are situations where we haven’t figured out how to handle it. We become paralyzed with indecision and annoyance.
There are going to be a lot more than these that will appear in your life. Dealing with situations as trouble, problems, difficulties, etc. distorts your thinking and keeps you away from solving the problem.
Focus on solutions by changing your mentality.
An old episode of Star Trek, the story starts with what is called the Kobayashi Maru training exercise. A cadet has to rescue a crippled fuel freighter by that name from the Klingons. It is A no-win scenario where any course of action the cadet takes ends in failure. The purpose of the no-win outcome is to test the cadets’ response to losing.
When faced with trouble, most of you go headlong into trouble. In the movie, Capt. Kirk does something different. He reprograms the computers.
Like trying to get into a nightclub with the bouncer out front, you can try to get in through the front door, the back door, or a side door.
You have options.
Think about your options instead of lamenting about your situation. You’ll solve your problem faster and be able to move ahead.
Ⓒ The Big Game Hunter, Inc., Asheville, NC 2020
ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1900 episodes, and is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council.
Are you interested in 1:1 coaching, interview coaching, advice about networking more effectively, how to negotiate your offer or leadership coaching? Please click here to see my schedule to book a free discovery call or schedule time for coaching.