As a society, we’ve done a great job of convincing people that they should never step up to lead.
Monday morning quarterbacking is encouraged and rewarded with support from others.
We don’t train people to lead.
We train people to criticize those who lead.
Some people go so far as to believe that they are smarter and more clever than those who lead yet would melt in less than a moment if they were ever put in that position.
Leaders make mistakes.
People will disagree with those who lead them. Their disagreement may be right or wrong but will be expressed behind the leader’s back.
It is the behavior of the critic, not the ally.
To be clear, I do believe in criticism. It should be voiced. It should be said directly to the leader and asked in a way that allows them to feel supported rather than criticized.
“I have the idea that maybe the decision you made missed a few points. Here’s what I was thinking and why. What am I missing?”
Have the courage to approach the leader.
If they are too immature to hear it in the right way, that is their problem.
You showed courage and care to approach them directly.
Live with that certainty.
Ⓒ The Big Game Hunter, Inc., Asheville, NC 2020
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