It Doesn’t Go Away |

It doesn't go away

I remember attending a workshop many years ago when a memory from when I was 16 years old surface and caused me to relive a moment in my past that was very painful.

Professionally, I remember many of my failures and force myself to remember the successes.

The successes of my past seem few and far in between. The failures dominate.

That’s the lie I and others tell ourselves — we are going through the motions with very little impact upon others.

That isn’t true but I act as though it is.

I forget about all the people I help get new jobs.

I forget about all the information I’ve shared with millions of people over the years that have benefited them.

I forget about the conversations I’ve had with friends, family, wives, and girlfriends we each shared a part of ourselves.

I’ve helped many people change their life in a good way.

I’ve made mistakes. We all do.

I don’t need to dwell on them and let them dominate either professionally or personally.

And they’ve made mistakes, far fewer than the generosity and care that I’ve offered others.

As long as I focus on my mistakes, they don’t go away.

I’ve learned that I have to learn from my mistakes and move on.

I may make them again and that will help me pay attention so I don’t make them again.

In sports, you watch the film and you learn from the mistake that you made how not to do it again.

You need a memory that converts mistakes to learning.

If you repeat the task often enough, like a math problem in third grade, you will outgrow the mistake.

That’s what champions do.

Ⓒ The Big Game Hunter, Inc., Asheville, NC 2020



Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1900 episodes, and is a member of The Forbes Coaches Career Angles | Jeff Altman, The Big Game HunterCouncil.

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