“People are not perfect. We are all imperfect in one way or another. We all struggle but with hard work, humility, and dedication, imperfect people can still have perfect moments.”

 

Brandy Halladay provided the Hall of Fame induction speech for her husband, Roy, who died piloting a plane after taking drugs.

Her husband was a terrific pitcher. Dominant in both the American League and the National League, someone who pitched both a perfect game and also a no-hitter in game one of the playoff series. He was truly a very good player.

At the same time, obviously, you have a problem that led to his death. I understand firsthand how damaging drugs and alcohol can be. I lost my second wife to her addictions the long after we divorced those addictions contributed to our divorce. Despite those flaws, she did many great things to help others including me. And she died too young because she had an imperfection.

As you read the slice of the story that I’ve shared, you can’t help but feel sad, a person’s death is a way of eliciting compassion from us. But one person makes a mistake, we often feel the need to attack and pillory them, particularly in the workplace when what they did was make a mistake.

Everyone makes mistakes. I’ve made mistakes and you’ve made mistakes. Some mistakes are worse than others. Few are not forgivable. If you can open up your heart and listen to the other person.

What is important is to see regret from others for the mistake they made allow them the opportunity to make amends for it. After all, if Representative John Lewis could forgive and cry with the man who gave him a concussion, beating him senseless, on the Edmund Pettus Bridge in Selma, Alabama, we can listen with greater care, forgiveness, and mercy to people who make mistakes at work.

Few mistakes, whether yours or someone else’s, there are so critical that the health of the organization will be damaged. Many come from distraction. Some come from poor judgment. Few are insurmountable although inconvenient.

Listen to their contrition as you want yours listened to. Listen to their regret as you would want yours listened to. Allow them to be accountable for their actions and move on.

There will be another time for this imperfect person to have a perfect moment.

 

Ⓒ The Big Game Hunter, Inc., Asheville, NC 2020

 

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1800 episodes, Career Angles | Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunterand is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council.

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