“Our mind is like a field, and performing actions is like sowing seeds in that field. Positive or virtuous actions sow the seeds of future happiness, and negative and non-virtuous actions sow the seeds of future suffering.”
~Geshe Kelsang Gyatso
It shouldn’t take a Buddhist master to remind us that when we do good things for others we are happy. When we do and say negative things we cause suffering for others and ourselves.
But sometimes we need a reminder to do onto others as we would wish others to do unto us, not because things should be tit-for-tat but because we feel better and are happier when we do.
One of the things I noticed when I worked in sales is that there is always a lot of pressure to perform and to deliver numbers. After all, that’s what we are paid for.
But sometimes doing that put me in conflict with what was right for them and I had a dilemma the face — sacrifice my fee and my earnings or do the right thing. I remember one person in particular who asked me point blank what was the right thing for them. It was hard because the temptation for me would sometimes get in the way. I told him the truth. I watched a $40,000 commission disappear that would help make a bunch of mortgage payments.
It wasn’t easy. As a matter of fact, it was damn hard.
A few months later, she came back to me in a new role and hired more than enough people to eclipse the fee I sacrificed at the time.
The feeling of happiness is transient if we don’t tame ourselves and our minds. Meditation is one way to do that. Just taking a minute off every hour to focus on breathing in and breathing out will change your mood and your attitude.
Smile more. Laugh more. My former colleague, Terry, and I would periodically do laughing yoga at the office, breaking into uncontrollable laughter. We felt great afterward. Even if it was temporary, it’s was a start.
Like so many things, our minds control how we feel. Feeling unhappy. Do something different that makes you feel happy. Change your attitude and focus on gratitude.
That may sound like a fortune cookie comment but it’s also true just like many of those platitudes in the cookies. Feeling happy is better than chocolate.
Ⓒ The Big Game Hunter, Inc., Asheville, NC 2020
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