Charisma is something that companies are attracted to when they hire and helps someone be more successful when they join their new firm. How can you become more charismatic? This is the first in a series I’ll be doing on the subject.

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Becoming More Charismatic: Remembering Names |

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Becoming more charismatic is a very important skill to cultivate if you don't feel you get that kind of attention. I'm Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter. I'm a career and leadership coach.

And I started to think about this in anticipation of an interview that I did with Fred Joyal who wrote this book "Super Bold," because it's been a constant topic that's been showing up in my LinkedIn Lives. Because I talk with people about how, when firms hire, competence is only one thing that they look for. And I make the point of saying charismatic people always do better than non-charismatics. Invariably, someone will message me "Well, how do you become more charismatic?" And then Fred showed up, and the book is wonderful. By the way, I'll have a link to it in the show notes.

But the idea very simply is doing things to make yourself more memorable and connect at a deeper level with people. And in this section of the book, he talks about remembering names. Now, you may have trouble remembering names At times, I'm flooded, because I talked to a lot of people and I'm messaged by a lot of people, and I'm trying to work on this. So I don't want to make it seem I've got this all lined up and perfect because I don't.

But he says to start off with, tell yourself you're good at remembering names. Rewrite that bad line of code, which I think is perfect. And then, once they tell you their name, repeat it back immediately. Find something unique about them to associate with their name-- maybe even a rhyme or mnemonic trigger to go along with it like Jim goes to the gym-- a lot. Get the pronunciation right, which I don't know how it is for you. I talk to people who do not have traditionally US names. I always make the point of asking them to pronounce their name for me, because I don't want to be rude and mispronounce it.

Use their name as often as possible on the first encounter. I don't want to say their name in every sense. "Well, Jeff, I I think that . . . but Jeff, Jeff, Jeff-- too much. You know what's appropriate. Maybe a half hour conversation, it comes in a few times. But don't overdo it because it's just as obnoxious. Tell them your name. And if you forget their name, if you forget their name, ask again.

Now there are little things about "the ask again" the book goes into. I'm not going to cover here. But the notion is to start becoming good at remembering names, using them periodically in your conversations or in your messages with people so that, in this way, you and they start to connect. And it may seem trite, it may seem phony. This is very basic, but it will help you start to become more memorable, which is really what charisma is about-- being memorable.

I'm Jeff Altman. Hope you found this helpful. My website is You can go there; go exploring. There's just a lot there to help you. And you can also schedule time for a free discovery call or schedule time for coaching. I'd love to help you. In addition, you know, connect with me on LinkedIn at And I hope you have a terrific day and, most importantly, be great


Jeff Altman, The Big Game HunterJeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 2200 episodes. He also hosts Job Search TV on YouTube, Amazon and Roku, as well as on for Apple TV and 90+ smartsets.

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