Your Ambivalence About the Job May Mean Something Else

Your Ambivalence About the Job May Mean Something Else

By Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
I was speaking with someone I coach who expressed his ambivalence about his new job to me. I don’t believe it was ambivalence and, from what he told me, I was right.

00″00 Introduction
00:21 The scenario
01:04 What I saw
01:29 What I interpreted
02:13 The result
02:37 Summary
02:55 Outro

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Hi, I’m Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter. And people hire me for no BS coaching and career advice globally. That’s because I make things easier about a job search, hiring more effectively, managing and leading better, workplace issues and much more.

I was talking with someone recently, who had received and accepted an offer, and was due to start. And without going into a lot of detail about the ways he was sabotaging his situation, I learned he was feeling somewhat ambivalent about taking the job. He had some very good explanations for why he really would prefer staying where he was versus going to the new role. And I want to be clear, as a coach, it makes no difference to me as to where someone goes to work, because I’m not receiving a fee for my work. But I listened carefully to what he was saying.

And decided to explore a little bit further, asked some questions, and then I moved in. I said, “You know, this is the second said “Yes,” and then you’re starting to hem and haw about going there. “

Yeah, I’m feeling kind of ambivalent about this one, ” he told me.

And I responded by saying, “I don’t think you’re ambivalent. I think you’re afraid. And I think you’re going to do things that are going to undermine your situation at the new role, because you’re afraid of committing and leaving the old one.”

I told him about many people I’ve worked with when I did recruiting, who did similar things and went on to move into new organizations where they did well. And sometimes the new situation didn’t work out. As I told him, keep interviewing, commit to a month, maybe six weeks, but keep interviewing. If you don’t like this situation, you’ll go on to something else.

And I got a call after the start and he told me at the end of his first day, “you were right. I really was afraid. I was uncomfortable because I heard a voice from the GM of the organization that sounded like someone I’d worked for before who I had trouble with. It had nothing to do with the person. It was the voice that was similar.”

Fear can interfere with the right situation for you and like I said to this person, start the new job. You are probably wrong. If you aren’t, you keep interviewing, and you move on.

I hope you found this helpful. I’m Jeff Altman. Visit my website, TheBigGameHunter.us There’s a ton in the blog that can help you. Plus, you can schedule a time for coaching with me, help me answer your questions through Trusted Advisor Services, find out about my video courses, books and guides. Again, there’s a lot there to help.

Also connect with me on Linkedin at linkedin.com/in/TheBigGameHunter. Have a terrific day and be great!

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