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This is "The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast,All quotes Episode 106. I'm your host, Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter, and welcome. I like to spend some time, at this point, it's weekly, talking with you about some elements of life, the universe and everything. And as I record this, it's the day before Christmas. (2018) And for many of you, you're heading off into family situations that have a little challenge to them, shall we say?

SEGMENT 1. And, you know, folks, there are many battles that you're going to be involved with in life that really aren't all that important. You know, for those of you who are younger, and you're dealing with older parents, you know, what difference does it make if they're wrong? Seriously, what difference does it really make? Youknow, there's going to come a time in life, where you're going to look back, and you're going to remember some of the pleasant things about many of your parents, and you're going to come to realize some of the battles that you fought really weren't all that important.

One of the lessons in life is to learn when to pick your battles. That's true professionally. That's true, personally. Some of these fights we get into don't matter. I know with my parents. They were . . . my mom, in particular, was quite opinionated. And for years, we battled and battled. And I came to realize some of the stuff we were fighting about was absolutely stupid, and it really didn't matter to me. Habit had built up and the notion of, like we've seen in so many of the Christmas movies, the family arguments over garbage. So just pick your battles, instead of trying to win every war.

SEGMENT 2. Everyone makes mistakes. I make mistakes; you make mistakes, right? You know, many of the mistakes I've made is because I thought I've been right about something. Again, I don't know if that's your experience, but it's certainly been mine. It's not what you know, that gets you in trouble. It's what you don't know. Or what you think you know, gets . . . At least it got me into trouble way too often.

As I was recording this show earlier, I got interrupted by two phone calls. The first call was my brother, wanting to talk about the New York Giants. He's older than I am. He's in his 70s. I'm in my 60s and his health is somewhat complicated. And I was briefly annoyed. And then I got immersed in the conversation. I was just trying to record again, when I got a call from my wife who's upstairs and sick. She drove back from New York yesterday for 11 and a half hours by herself, after driving up there by herself, and helping our son visit two schools that he's thinking of enrolling in.

You know, I pause for a second and say, "Where was my mind during those two phone calls? She needs my help. She's sick. She's not eating anything. She needs something from the store. My brother, all he's trying to do is connect. I spend so much time encouraging people to reach out and hear folks do it and my mind is annoyed.

Does that happened to you, folks? Does your mind get annoyed like mine does. Lord knows I got pissy (excuse my language). And it's not their fault. That's me. Sometimes I'm just not in the mood, and I will take it out on others. That's enough. They don't deserve it. Don't take things from others that they don't deserve.

SEGMENT 3. So, I'm not going to blame others for my reaction or responses. That's purely on me. I'm not going to make any excuses because, as I think about it, the common variable of failure is excuses. And we tend to rationalize our choices and our behavior with excuses. I made a decision, you'll make a decision about how you react to family who do certain things during the holidays that just annoy the heck out of you.

Remember, this is a time of year for joy, celebration, and many other good things in the Jewish faith and I was raised in Hanukkah. It was a time of celebration of a miracle. Christmas, another miracle. New Year an opportunity to start the year in a particular way of our choice. Start early. Make a decision to celebrate your holidays in your particular way. Not with anger, not with annoyance, but making the choice about how you feel.

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Jeff Altman, The Big Game HunterJeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a coach who worked in recruiting for what seems like one hundred years. He is the head coach for He is the host of “The No BS Coaching Advice Podcast,” and “No BS Job Search Advice.”

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