By Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

There is an old Iroquois saying, “The greatest strength is gentleness.” It takes a strong person to be gentle. A strong leader is the one with the courage to be pause, to reflect, to listen, to love and to empathize — in other words, to be gentle. Are you gentle?”


Spririt@Work is an app developed by Dr. Lance Secretan. Each day, you open your iPhone and the app, shake your phone, and it deals a card to you. Tap on the card, and you receive a message as a theme for the day.

Today, mine was gentleness.

It asked, “Are you gentle.”

In my life, both professional and personal, I am both gentle and tough.

I tap into the ability to listen to both what is said and unsaid.

I notice things.

I pay attention.

I care.

Then, when something happens that causes fear to arise, my back bristles, and my humanity is blocked. I become tough and harsh.

Does that ever happen to you?

At those times, it is hard to take a deep breath and empathize with anyone. My mind is activated to action, and I find it hard to listen.

Today, my card is “Gentleness.”

I will hold that near to me.

Ⓒ The Big Game Hunter, Inc., Asheville, NC 2021


Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 2000 episodes. He also hosts Job Search TV on YouTube, Amazon and Roku, as well as on for Apple TV and 90+ smartsets.

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