By Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

By Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

“To be a friend, we must walk in the moccasins of others, because in order to understand others we must relate as well with their hearts as we do with their minds. How can you be more empathetic?


To be a friend.

Being a friend means more than being a client or colleague to me.

There is a feeling of care that I experience when someone is a friend.

I care about the people I coach.

I want them to be successful and move forward. I opened my heart to them because they matter.

As I read the empathy card in the Soul@Work app (iPhone), I guess the key is to open my heart and not just my head.

When I open my heart, we form a relationship with one another.

When I open my heart, I relate better to others and they trust me even more.

Is that true of you, too?

I noticed this morning in a pre-interview I did for someone else’s podcast the feeling of surprise the host had seeing an older man in front of him on the screen.

It was all business and minimal relationship during this pre-interview.

It didn’t seem like either of us groked one another.

Going into the interview, I understand that my job is to open up to him and take the risk first, rather than expecting him to reach to me.

My job is to support him as he grows on his show as I did on mine.

There are many places where I understand what it’s like to be in someone else’s shoes experiencing heartbreak, professional flatulence (yes, I use the word flatulence intentionally), and joy.

Being open to real connection with some involves risk— fear of rejection, in particular.

What I practice empathy, I minute place where I appreciate and value someone else even more than I do myself.

My mind works to support the feeling it is picking sensing. It is not in control.

How is it for you?

Ⓒ The Big Game Hunter, Inc., Asheville, NC 2021 



Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 2000 episodes. He also hosts Job Search TV on YouTube, Amazon and Roku, as well as on BingeNetworks.tv for Apple TV and 90+ smartsets.

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