Letting people and places occupy a lot of real estate between my ears let me do some pretty painful conclusions and unsatisfactory behavior.

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I'm Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter. I'm a coach who helps people with a variety of different workplace issues that could involve career advancement, job search, hiring more effectively, managing and leading, overall workplace success.

Blame. Blame. That is a topic I know. You know, it stings me at this point as I reflect on my former career, and how in the environment that I worked in, it really propagated something in me that festered like, it was like a disease, unfortunately. Let me explain.

I learned an expression in coach training that was really very helpful to me-- environments win and, by that, if you work in an upbeat, aggressive environment, you feel upbeat and aggressive. You kind of go to that sort of attitude. But if you work in depressing, angry, frustrated places as I did for a lot of my head hunting career, that kind of grinds at you and brings you to that level.

And when you don't feel supported, you start pointing fingers at other people blaming others. And that blame festers. Is that really the way you want to live your life? And the answer for me became, "No," but I was too dumb to figure it out. For me. I hung in there because the financials were very good and,as a result, I was . . . I hurt myself. In retrospect, I made a good choice financially but not emotionally.

For you working in your office, how does that environment serve you? Is it the kind of place that you're proud to work in, physically? I know in the last office that I worked in in New York, it was like a dungeon! In summer, sometimes the air conditioning didn't even work. You couldn't even go to work because it became oppressively hot. We would all sit around grumbling and complaining to management who did nothing. And that blame festers, and it's a distraction, and it's outsourcing mental real estate, that could be devoted to something positive.

I know working as I do now, in the career that I'm in now, I don't have that sort of feeling. I've got a space that I like, it may not be your taste, but it happens to be mine. And I do work that I really enjoy. Frustration does come up as I just want to do that much more and do tha t much better. But that's, I know, my stuff and I'm not pointing fingers on others. I notice it and I make change.

Again, remember, look around you. And notice how you feel when you go into work. Is that the kind of place that you're proud of and happy to be associated with? Or not? And, if not, how are you responding to it? Are you pointing fingers at others and blaming and letting them control you in that way or is there something that you can do to change it? And that may involve changing where your work.

I'm not telling you what to do? Because I know I tolerated that old place for a lot of years because, financially, it was worth my while. But think about it for yourself and see what really serves you.

Hope you found this helpful. I'm Jeff Altman. Visit my website which is NoBSCoachingAdvice.com. I have two-- TheBigGameHunter.us has all my content including all the job search material there and then there's NoBSCoachingAdvice.com which has everything other than the job search material. So I've have it, in effect, narrowed down to the non job search stuff.

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Have a great day, and take care

ABOUT JEFF ALTMAN, THE BIG GAME HUNTER

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 1600 episodes and his newest show, “No BS Coaching Advice” and is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council.Career Angles | Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

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