Look at the Hand

We tear people apart so easily with little thought to what we say or do. We make caricatures out of people and, thus, diminish their lifetime of achievements for temporary pleasure or victory.

Let me give you an example, not because I agree with him but because he is one of many obvious ones.

Almost 20 years ago, Mayor Rudy Giuliani walked the streets of lower Manhattan shortly after planes flew into the World Trade Center destroying them. He rebuffed money from a Saudi prince that he judged his blood money and was described as “America’s Mayor.”

Today, many mock him, most recently because of a press conference he held where what appears to be hair dye is dripping down the side of his head. The close-ups or frequent on social media.

Did anyone pay attention to what he said?

Was it even reported?

No, it wasn’t.

It wasn’t reported anymore than the fact he was proven right years later in his support of Pres. Trump about whether the Trump campaign colluded with Russians.

It wasn’t reported anymore than his being right that the federal government and specifically the FBI were involved with a plot to infiltrate the Trump campaign.

You may argue as is your prerogative but after years of investigation, the Muller investigation found nothing.

We also now know through an Inspector General report that there are many instances with the FBI did not follow the procedure in its decisions to investigate the Trump campaign.

Again, this isn’t about him. It is about us and how easily we are persuaded by clever distractions.

After all, we have lost our ability to feel bad for someone who is so vain/silly/mistaken to believe that he must have black hair to be effective in his work.

Maybe that says something about us, too, that people feel compelled to do things like that.

I know women understand that they must appear in a particular way to be paid attention to. At least this man has tapped into that for himself.

It speaks about us.

It speaks about him.

Our nastiness is confused with being clever in winning a point. Like gestures at the court of the king, we seek approval from others.

That speaks about us.

After all, we’ve even created a word, Snark, to replace the word nasty to make it socially acceptable.

That speaks about us.

We build ourselves up by chopping people down.

That speaks about us.

In the case of Giuliani, there are ample reasons to criticize him for what he says and does. That we don’t choose to listen to anything says, even when years later he’s proven right, speaks about us.

This may be unpopular but I don’t care.

Nastiness speaks about us, too.

It is unnecessary.

Defeat the ideas.

Don’t diminish the person any more than you would someone you know and love by publicly pointing out their weight gain, your poor wardrobe, your fat ass or any other personal characteristic.

That we opt for nastiness speaks about us and our lazy thinking.

We are trained to look at the hand of nastiness and not the substance.

That speaks about us.

Ⓒ The Big Game Hunter, Inc., Asheville, NC 2020



Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter
Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter

Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunter is a career and leadership coach who worked as a recruiter for more than 40 years. He is the host of “No BS Job Search Advice Radio,” the #1 podcast in iTunes for job search with more than 2000 episodes, Career Angles | Jeff Altman, The Big Game Hunterand is a member of The Forbes Coaches Council.

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