Excuses are often used to assign blame to someone else for your own failures. It’s the abdication of responsibility for your own decision to agree to do something without sufficient investigation.
“I did what I was told and it didn’t work out,” is the short description of the events that taken place. You’ve turned yourself into that German POW soldier on the old TV show, “Hogan’s Heroes,” repeated the catch line, “I know nothing.”
Is that the way you want to live your life and manage your career? Do you always just want to take orders and blame others?
Commitment to excellence requires that you ask smart questions, offer opinions and then commit or not commit.
“I’m not sure how this will work out,” is the invitation to someone to say, “why is that?” That invites your response to explain why you’re not sure. Thus, you learn their thinking and can see more about whether or not you can succeed.
A friend sat in front of a certification panel and was bombarded by one of the panel members who held a grudge for an opinion the man had of his experience of the workshop that he attended five years previously. The evaluator and never directly spoken with him about his anger and when it came time to evaluate him let it rip.
The man sat and took it, instead of fighting back. He could have said at the time, “you’ve held onto this for five years. We work together three separate times and you never raise this is as something that bothered you. I had my experience of the workshop. I’m sorry you didn’t like it. To raise it is a bone of contention now having had the opportunity to speak to me about it on several occasions over the last few years is both unfair and wrong.”
The man was not certified and started to use the excuse of blaming this man for why he wasn’t.
A few of us have pointed out his mistake and how he sabotaged himself.
Ⓒ The Big Game Hunter, Inc., Asheville, NC 2019
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